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Highs and Lows of Bodybuilder Dating - All BB Partners, Squat Here!

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entersandmum · 20/11/2013 11:18

Being in a relationship with a bodybuilder can be absolutely wonderful, it can also be bloody hard work, especially if you are not one yourself.

If anyone would like to discuss some of the many topics that crop up such as:

Diet - Do you eat the same? Astronomically high shopping bills?
Gym time - Do you enjoy those hours to yourself or wish he wouldn't go?
Moods - Usually linked to diet, but also can be psychological.
Steroids / Growth - Is DP honest enough to admit he does it? Are you concerned? Infertility?
Protein - And all the wonderful scents that it produces.
Perception - Does DP worry they are not big enough? Do people assume DP is aggressive / violent?
Attractiveness - Do others assume DP is fair game to be touched / felt up? How do you feel about this?

I've probably missed a few topics but general chat is welcome to highlight this. Please no BB bashing, I know its not for everyone This thread is for those in or thinking of having a relationship with a BB. Men and women welcome.

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Dirtybadger · 21/11/2013 00:31

£200! That's a months food for us! Wow.

SantiagoToots · 21/11/2013 00:46

Funny, I was just thinking about starting a similar thread because the cutting is driving me bonkers.

My husband is a BB - he trains with a "no drugs" guy and they compete strictly "no drugs" - which means it seems to be twice as much work.

The food bill isn't so bad although tbh I've no idea how much he spends on supplements/proteins/amino acids.

It's the fucking moods and tiredness which piss me off. He's been cutting recently which means "no" food in + 3 hours (+) at the gym and then he's so tired when he gets home that he's grumpy and just falls asleep all the time.

Most of the time I do enjoy him being at the gym - I like my P&Q - but it pisses me off when he expects me to revolve my life around his gym.

He's Glasgwegian - he doesn't need muscles for people to assume he's violent and aggressive!

TheCrumpetQueen · 21/11/2013 07:15

Pippi Probably a bit bigger than marbles, but really small. V odd.

nooka · 21/11/2013 07:28

My dh was a bodybuilder (bodybuilded??) for a few years a few years ago, and whilst I did quite enjoy the effect on his body I found it very intrusive because he felt that life should revolve around when he needed to eat or go to the gym and he talked and talked about it a bit too much too.

However it was a fairly difficult time in our relationship (not related I don't think) so my experience might not be very representative! Plus it wasn't something he was into when we got together so came as a bit of a surprise really.

What I found most difficult was that he didn't want to eat the same food as the rest of the family and as our children were relatively young and fussy and I felt that family meals were important that meant for me all the enjoyment of cooking and eating pretty much disappeared. I like herbs and spices and interesting food, and found 'clean' food very very boring. I also found the volume difficult because it just felt very excessive and I guess quite greedy. And expensive, oh yes!

Smells wise the only additional issue I had was that his breath often smelled of ketosis, which was nasty.

Dinnaeknowshitfromclay · 21/11/2013 08:51

Get in some Preparation H , they get terrible 'Chalfonts' !

MoreGin · 21/11/2013 10:44

What's "cutting"?

CuChullain · 21/11/2013 12:08

@entersandmum

Interesting thread. I have just started (well, three months in) a bodybuilder programme and already there have been some profound changes in my physique. I am going to the gym 5 times a week after work at the moment but I am still getting home before Mrs CuChullain so I dont feel I am abandoning her. I have no desire to look like those blokes on the front of the Muscle Mags, but I am enjoying losing the fat, feeling healthy and from a vanity point of view looking better. I am just sticking to a healthy balanced diet, the whole protein shake thing is a bit of a con in my eyes.

I cant stand the hard core element down the gym though, they make far too much noise and hog the gear. Also, not sure why they feel the need to all wear those baggy gym trousers and vests, they just look very camp.

wishIwasonaBeach · 21/11/2013 13:08

My bf is a weight-trainer, rather than a b/builder. It seems most of the same applies though. He doesn't take any steroids or anything. Goes to the gym 6 days for about 2+ hours. Sometimes it can be a pain. Little things like we can't do an Orange Wednesday together or I have to carry a tin of tuna in my handbag. On the other hand it does force me to peruse my own hobbies and see my friends regularly etc. I'd be interested if anyone makes their OH protein bars? My bf is interested in me baking them rather than paying £20+ a box. Nice to talk to people who have the same experience

SantiagoToots · 21/11/2013 13:36

Yes I make protein bars sometimes, but they're too good!

haha totally get the "carrying around a tin of tuna"!

jasmineramsden · 21/11/2013 14:16

Enters our shopping bill is around 500/month (that's for me him and a toddler so includes nappies etc)
My other half trains 5 days a week at the gym on average, he goes either before or after work for about an hour and a half. I find that his diet encourages me to eat more healthily although of course in smaller portions.
He doesn't use drugs to train, although he did have a course when I first met him ( I was unaware he was doing so at the time) and with hindsight it definitely affected his mood. He's pretty laid back now and does it 'properly' ie with diet and exercise only, although this defo seems to be more expensive!
I admire his commitment and drive to be honest and I would much rather he spent this time in the gym than at the pub! I have ample time to see friends or have my own time as we trade off with one another if I need time to do something. I didn't know how attractive I'd find a muscular physique til I met him as my exes before him were not in shape.

normalishdude · 21/11/2013 14:51

Hemp protein is more expensive but less odorous on digestion, I have found.
Interesting attacks on OP- took about 5 posts before they got laid into.

wispa31 · 21/11/2013 18:37

Enters-, yes get him to rotate proteon powders every few weeks, or use amino acids. Whey protein is highly allergenic and insulinogenic, so better not to use it all the time.

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entersandmum · 22/11/2013 23:40

wispa pea protein was met with a derisive snort. I think I had better let him make his own choices. I may have to pop some of those charcoal tablets for f*rts into his shakes.

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entersandmum · 23/11/2013 00:32

Santiago making home-made protein bars / cookies at midnight is something of a given. Esp. when DP takes extra to the gym and you end up making more for his mates!

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entersandmum · 23/11/2013 00:36

wispa If I could dictate DP supplements, I would, but he knows best on the extras best to leave him to it.

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entersandmum · 23/11/2013 00:38

wispa If I could dictate DP supplements, I would, but he knows best on the extras best to leave him to it.

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DearDinah · 23/11/2013 00:43

My DH trains 5 days a week, I do get annoyed sometimes but no idea why, we'd only spend that time watching tv anyway! We eat separate meals, I do find the set meal times annoying, always clock watching as to when his next meal
is, he pays for his own shopping most of the time, it is an expensive hobby! It makes him happy though & I wish I had a hobby too sometimes! Lol

DearDinah · 23/11/2013 00:46

Oh & he doesn't take any drugs so mood isn't an issue, he's happiest when training, it's a stress buster for him.

dontblameme · 23/11/2013 13:39

Great thread, makes me feel a bit better

nooka I totally agree with your post! They would talk about it all day if anyone would listen, zzzz...

I find my DPs diet excessive and expensive. Like I bought 12 eggs last week and they have all gone, and the chicken I bought on request (I'm veggie) has sat in the fridge and gone off! I can't remember the last time we ate a meal together. And the boxes of protein powder keep arriving and DP wonders where all the money goes!

nooka · 23/11/2013 16:12

My dh sometimes used to drink eggs! Some weird shake that he read up about...

In some ways I miss him working out, the effect of him stopping is a great big belly apart from anything else. I was quite proud of how he looked!

But it's a bit of an extreme hobby, and he is a very all or nothing sort of guy.

DearDinah · 23/11/2013 18:26

dontblameme I'm veggie too & loathe the fact that meat just gets left to go off, poor animal died for nothing

Arcadian · 23/11/2013 19:48

I was in a relationship with a bodybuilder. I won't be doing that again.

harvestwidows · 23/11/2013 20:07

Yuck is all i will say. Nothing worse than a pea headed body builder.

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entersandmum · 24/11/2013 02:29

harvest was it the man or the bodybuilding? I think, from talking to DP mates, that a lot of partners, whilst attracted to BBs in the first place, then want them to quit because, ' they don't spend enough time with them'.

That is quite ridiculous if they were doing BB before you met. Find your own thing.

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entersandmum · 24/11/2013 02:34

arcadian was it the man or the bodybuilding? I think, from talking to DP mates, that a lot of partners, whilst attracted to BBs in the first place, then want them to quit because, ' they don't spend enough time with them'.

That is quite ridiculous if they were doing BB before you met. Find your own thing.

harvest builderist? Why even comment if you don't like?

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