What would you do?

[CoffeeQueen187]

I wasn't sure where to post this so I put it here, apologies if it's in the wrong place.

I have this male friend who I've known for years. He came round to mine a few weeks back for a catch up as I'd not spoken to him for a while. I've seen him around but haven't recently had time to stop and chat. Anyway, one thing led to another, he stayed the night and, well, you catch my drift...

4 weeks on and I discover I'm pregnant to him I already know how monumentally stupid I've been :(. I've decided not to keep the baby as I'm not in a relationship with this guy and I don't plan to be either. I also have 3 children of my own and I'm a single parent, plus a load of other stuff I have going on at the moment. I know this is the right decision for me and my children and I'm sticking to it.

Anyway, my problem is, do I tell him I'm pregnant etc? He's a really good friend and I don't want to ruin our friendship. Plus, his son goes to the same school as my DCs so I see him pretty much on a daily basis. Part of me thinks it's be better to keep it to myself, but another part of me tells me I'm being cruel by not involving him what do I do?

[ExcuseTypos]

Well in that case, you owe him nothing.

Look after yourself and do what is best for you.

[sherbetpips]

ooops totally read it wrong - you do want to terminate - my bad will shut up.

[ExcuseTypos]

X posted. I was posting about him not asking you about having unprotected sex.

[Thisisaghostlyeuphemism]

So if the guy then puts pressure on her not to terminate, as she suspects he will do, should she then do what he says, because otherwise it's "not fair"?

Nothing about this is going to be "fair" to everybody.

[JoinYourPlayfellows]

:o sherbet

Best of luck, Coffee :)

[CeliaLytton]

OP, you have asked WWYD, and in your situation I would not tell him.

I personally would consider it cruel to tell him, especially as he would like more children. You have said that it's his baby too, but if you are having a termination then it's nobody's baby, it's a foetus.

You are making the right decision for your circumstances and it is your decision to make. He (rightly) has no say in the matter and therefore the only thing to gain by telling him is a weight off your own mind. Have you a close family member or friend you can confide in who can support you?

I hope all goes well for you.

[AndYouCanDance]

Slinglover??

[AndYouCanDance]

Ghostly the OP clearly isn't sure. Otherwise she would not have started this thread asking what we would do...

[wontletmesignin]

Wtf slinglover!!

Leave her alone. This will be incredibly hard for her as it is! Dont add to it.

[CoffeeQueen187]

Slinglover, I'm not sure who you think I am, but I have no idea who 'Tim' is, and seeing as the only person in my RL that knows is my sister then you clearly have the wrong person.

Plus, I am glad I'm not your 'friend' as I would extremely pissed off and deeply hurt by what you've just written...

[CoffeeQueen187]

What on earth are you on about?

[FracturedViewOfLife]

WTF? Odd...

[wontletmesignin]

What an insensitive piece of shit, slinglover. You have had your fun. Now please leave it

[JoinYourPlayfellows]

Report and ignore guys.

[ExcuseTypos]

Reported

[CoffeeQueen187]

I've reported too

[wontletmesignin]

Me too

[EllieInTheRoom]

I wouldn't tell him as PP say.

But is there any chance of him coming round again, having a couple of glasses of wine, and sex being back on the agenda and you start to feel guilty and confessional?

I think you need to be absolutely sure that wont happen

[rainbowfeet]

Having been in a similar situation although I decided to keep the baby.. But had I been in a different position. & terminated the pregnancy no I wouldn't have told him.

Hope all goes well

[BitOutOfPractice]

Slingover you are so bloody far out of line it's untrue.

This is clearly not anyone you know. Back the fuck off.

I am aghast at what you've done and I bet the people who's PB comments you have just C&Ped would be non too chuffed at what you've done

[wontletmesignin]

Slinglover - what exactly does this have to do with the OP??

Nothing.

Either way, be it that person on facebook, or the OP in this thread.
They are borh going through difficulties right now. So what is your point?
You have no point. So jog on