Our sex life is great but just have a couple of things to run by you ladies.
The details, going out 2.5 yrs living together 1.5 Both in our 30's.
I want to empower her but she doesnt seem to want to be empowered. We've talked, argued, joked and still she doesn't get hints, requests, wishes. I think she's the hottest girl ever and have told her this but she doesnt get it. I want her to be more active in our sex life. I've talked to her on walks so as its not in a pressured situation about how I feel and what she can do and asked her what I can do. I've reassured her that she has nothing to be afraid of and that she knows how sexy I think she is and that if she does do something like wear lingerie she'll feel sexy doing it and that it will be a major turn on. How do I convince her that she can feel sexy and to get more involved in our sex life? Any help, advice gladly appreciated.
Its nothing to do with lack of sex, definitely cant complain about 5 times a week with oral (for me) every time and no problem with trying new positions but you cant beat the standard few imho. :)
She's a creature of habit and likes a bed time routine and doesnt tend to deviate from it which means sex is a chat, a cuddle, a few pecks on the lips (I'd love a make out session with wandering hands) and then oral and sex. It works but I want variety so down the line we dont get bored.