Is this usual, or is he just going to blow me off?

[Wishuponastar011]

I'm going to the cinema with a friend of a friend, I've met him a few times but this will be our first time alone just the two of us.

He's working today until 6, and has about a 45 minute drive home - he won't agree on a time for the cinema as he doesn't know when he will be back - so you think he's being genuine? Or do you think he's trying to worm his way out of it?

Can he at least commit to a showing time for the movie to give you an idea?

I didn't think of that, I don't want to keep asking and pressuring him though! If he's not interested I don't want to seem too needy and pathetic.

If he's not text me by mid afternoon I'll text him with afew times and see what he says!

I'd wait to hear from here. Tbh I wouldn't be interested in someone who couldn't even give a time to meet!

I'd wait to hear from here. Tbh I wouldn't be interested in someone who couldn't even give a time to meet!

I'd wait for him to contact you too. You don't want to seem over keen and this will show you if he's being genuine or is not interested.

I don't understand why he won't set a time-he knows what time he finishes and how long he needs to get home,so could easily say 8:30 (or something)

Maybe he's ultra keen and wants to see you asap so is hoping it will be 7pm but it could be 7:30?

What are you going to see? Doesn't that tell him/you what time you need to be there? Won't you need to book on a Sat night?

I would leave it down to him now. I know its a pain he isnt giving you no clear signs. But maybe he is anxious over the whole thing?

He also may be worried that he gives you a time, but then gets stuck in a traffic jam. He may not want you to feel stood up.

Still haven't heard anything about our 'date' he text me on his lunch break to ask how I was ect but didn't mention it.

Shall I still just leave it? We haven't agreed on a film as the local cinema is only small so doesn't have loads of showings so we'd have to choose once we were there at the agreed time.

If hes textinf you on his lunch - thats a good sign.
Dont mention anything about the film. Leave that to him. He may have something up his sleeve already.

Take it easy. Got all my fingers crossed for you :-)

This is so nerve wracking!

I bet! Bless ya. Try and take your mind off of things for a bit! Easier said than done, i know.
Xx

I'd be pissed off if I were you. If he's got cold feet he should have had the decency to let you know it's off. If he contacts you last minute the correct response is 'I'm busy'...

It doesn't sound very promising. But on the other hand sometimes (or mostly!) it's impossible to work out what's on a man's mind. It could be just that he doesn't want to give a time unless he gets stuck in traffic. But he should say one way or the other. Sorry I might not make it for the film so we can go for a drink instead.

Have you heard from him?

In any case, I'd wait for him to contact you and make a plan b just in case he doesn't contact you about the cinema, so you aren't sitting at home feeling sad.

Hopefully you're at the cinema now?

Yes, did you hear from him??

Did he contact you op?

Hopefully no news is good news

any news?

Post date (hopefully) update?

Sorry for not updating! He text when he left work and agreed to meet at the cinema at 800, get there and there was nothing good on so we went for a few too many drink instead! Long story short, I've just left his house now!

We've agreed to a lunch date on Thursday too!

Well, there's very good from a romantic point of view, but I'm afraid I am going to have to start an AIBU thread about your mutually bizarre approaches to cinema going.

I don't understand?

I can't understand why you both just rocked up at the cinema at a random time. If you want to see a film you have a look at what's on, decide what you want to see and arrive in time for the right viewing...