Online male friend

[SoleSorceress]

I have been chatting to this guy for almost three years.

We are not in a romantic relationship.

Today, within this Relationship.board there is a link of which enables users to search for others log ins, profiles etc.

I inputted online male friend's email address and his Youtube account was thrown.up.

There within his comments of around one month ago he has stated that he got married last year after telling.me over and over he is single.

Whether he lied to prove his point or he actually is married I cannot help but wonder.

Why lie about that?

Be fucking carefil online...

I have sent him an IM message making him.aware that I have fpund his comment.

Is he crazy...

He lied because it suited him to lie. Maybe he's been role-playing all this time and there are big chunks of other things he's told you that have been an exaggeration or simply untrue? Maybe he's getting more out of these conversations than just friendship and sees you as his 'bit on the side'? Either way, don't waste any more time on a liar.

Cogito Thank you x

Has he replied?

Very weird, don't invest more in him than you can afford to lose Sole.

No reply onetired he is online though. X

I know you know this already, but don't trust anything he says. Don't let yourself get hurt by him xxx

Could you please share the link? I could use this. :(

Thank you onetiredmommy He has hurt me very deeply. X

The link.isn't brilliant but.might throw some things up

www.pipl.com cosy, good luck

Have you ever met him or spoken to him or has it been 3 years of online contact only?

Just wondering if it's been more of a fantasy from his pov, if you see what I mean. rather than him seeing you as a real person with feelings.

No just online.

He is a fantasist. I have fantasised waaay too much about him.

lonely fool I am

Why are you hurt exactly? I could understand if you were puzzled or annoyed at being lied to but 'hurt' sounds like you had a more personal connection with this man than just friendship. Does it change anything knowing he's married? Were you hoping for something to develop?

I guess I was hoping for something to develop.
I have very few people to chat to and he is a liar. :( I felt there was a connection. Unrequited obviouslu. Again..

I'm sorry Sole, that must have been rough for you to find.

It is :(

He just.messaged.me

What are you talking about?

Yeah right..

Life is too short. It's certainly too short to be running background checks on 'friends' and wasting three years mooning over someone via IM.

tbh, if nothing had developed in three years of online chatting - it was never going to. It was a nice fantasy for him, wasn't it?

You deserve better. Someone who will come into your real life, not three years on the computer. I suppose you've tried online dating? I know there are a lot of arseholes but there are some good guys too.

You dont know he's married to be fair. but i think you need some reality, rather than the comfort of a monitor.

You are all correct.

I a full time single Mother to a blind, severly Autistic Son. He is in pads Money is tight. I have no family. I have very little supoort really. I have to do everything on my own. I sometimes get low in myself and feel.as if the world and his Wife is againste. I do not have depression as I stilll function.

Im.2/08 I was.very badly used and hurt. Since that time I guess I have given.up on online dating. I eat for comfort and my weight is an.issue.

I am working hard to change. I see a Lifecoach every week.and I have got so mamy things done. I had eitlghteenonths of Psychodynamic therapy to make sense of my Father's verbal.and emotional.abuse.

I lonely but will try and change this fac My Son has no speech and I get linely.

I do have another male online friend amd he has a gf. She knows about me and is a mature Lady. This guy is the.nicest man I havre ever known and we have video talked since 2008. No romantic delisions there on my part even though he is a dish.

I guess I'm lonely and forgiving asale online friend can be a prick (wrt who this thread is about).

I've been very gorgiving and almost dependent on him for our chats :(

Sad I.know :(

In January this year to March he said he wanted me. All lies. Messede up.

Before January this year he wanted us to meet but I said no, as we hadn't known each longthen, was about two yeats ago.

Sole, don't be too hard on yourself. Life is full of twats and we all come across some eventually.

On the positive side you didn't engage in a real life intimate relationship with this dickwad. Just message him to let him know that you have emailed his partner with some transcripts of your conversations. You don't have to do it. Then block him from contacting you, and change your phone number if he knows it.

Are there any support groups you can attend with your DS, to get out and meet other parents? Any local MN meets?

You sound as if you are trying to turn your life around, this is a minor setback. Don't let it take you off track.

Are you sure it's the right profile you are looking atsole?I just put my name into that site,& I am not on it, but there are numerous men there with the same first & last name as me.

Sole

Just thought I'd try something and input two of my email addresses into that link. Each input threw up a Youtube account with the same first short string. (ie the bit before the anyemail.etc.) They're not mine.

Thank ypu Banter I am hard on myself

I know it is him because of the personal details he gives away.

It isn't a very good site.

I.feel.much better.now :)

Thanks for that people x

Have you explained to him what you found?

Just remember op we're always here for you. you are not invisible