Online male friend

[SoleSorceress]

I have been chatting to this guy for almost three years.

We are not in a romantic relationship.

Today, within this Relationship.board there is a link of which enables users to search for others log ins, profiles etc.

I inputted online male friend's email address and his Youtube account was thrown.up.

There within his comments of around one month ago he has stated that he got married last year after telling.me over and over he is single.

Whether he lied to prove his point or he actually is married I cannot help but wonder.

Why lie about that?

Be fucking carefil online...

I have sent him an IM message making him.aware that I have fpund his comment.

Is he crazy...

Oh Sole I feel for you.

Whether what you found online is true or not, the fact remains that if nothing has happened between you in all this time, he's not really that into you.

I'm sorry, it's horrible to face up to. But if he wanted to be with you, he would have made an effort by now.

Get yourself on online dating, and talk to some guys who really do want a relationship. Cast the net far and wide, talk to lots of people, have some fun.

And maybe join some groups in RL where you can make new friends and get some support. You must feel very isolated

Thanks x

UPdate

I asked him if he had stated he was married on the Youtube comment and he said he did not, wasn't him and he doesn't even know how to use Youtube. Then later on in PM on a chat room, (where we met) he admitted it they were his words (was so obvious it was because of what he wrote) and he wrote the comment about him being married to make a strong point and that he embellished the truth but he was no longer going to talk to me as I am a 'N' word loving, tar pole sitting, monkey spunk eating person. Also if anybody calls him a liar that is the end of the friendship and he was never going to meet me anyway.
DS is half Black. He is a fantasist and honestly thought some young, gorgeous Chinese Woman would marry him.
Shown his true colours and I had a lucky escape!

He still goes in the chat room being nice and friendly to everybody but I know he is really a nasty bastard.

I feel nothing for him now except pity.

The End.

Wow - consider that one hell of a lucky escape.

Chalk it down to experience and move on. And maybe set your 'arsehole' filter onto super strength before getting too involved with anyone else online.

Poor you OP, hope this hasn't upset you too much

I'm really confused He's gone from being a really close online friend to saying those vile and disgusting things about you?

He sound unhinged! In three whole years did you never get an inkling that he was so vile?

He is a crazy person clearly. Thank goodness you found out and didn't meet him. I've just looked at my ex who is now married but has form for being unfaithful and he's on Pof. I'm sure it must be an old profile. Don't they ever delete profiles on there? He's been with his wife at least three years!

A gradual decline in showing me who he really was.

Good Christ Sole.You've had a narrow escape.How people even know those cus words is beyond me.What a nut job.Sorry that this has happened to you.

How can you resist 'outing' him in this chatroom? I wouldn't hesitate, tbh. Tell everyone there what he's actually said to you.

No energy to, they'd not believe it. His problems are too deep. Pity or him.

I don't know if this is at all helpful but I just tried out the site you linked to (with both mine and dp's email addresses) and it came up with completely different people for social networks, different pics etc. They are definitely our email addresses so don't see how anyone else can be using them?

Just saw your update, actually never mind if the site works well or not! He's clearly a crazy nasty bastard anyways! Lucky escape I say.

I am sorry for the loss of the friend you thought you had.

I've just used that site and looked at my own email address, loads of it isn't me so I guess the site is flawed in some ways.... However, what a nasty piece of work he is, what vile vitriolic shit he spouts, I feel sorry off his wife, you've had a lucky escape!

Wow what a shit he is :(

You have had a lucky escape. I wondered if you have seen 'Catfish'? A programme about online relationships. You might find it interesting. I have only seen a couple of episodes and have yet to come across a perfect happy ending.

What an utter, utter shit. Bullet dodged I think.