ex OH referring to my DC as ted bundys

[wontletmesignin]

what would this mean to you people...
my children are not out of the ordinary, in the slightest.
i have had behavioral problems with my eldest, of 10. but she has had a tough life, and i feel it has all be quite understandable.
if anything, she has handled things very well.

after everything i have been going through lately, re. my ex oh.
i have came to talk about a lot of things, that i wasn't really allowed to talk about.

one of those was him calling my oldest two children
'ted bundys'

now, if your children were on the normal developmental range for their age.
but your ex oh, was slighty disturbed.

how would you take this? what would you feel was meant by this?

Just a minute.

I am attached to the medical profession and in my many years in all sorts of grades of position, I have never heard patients referred to in this or any other similarly derogatory way. Anybody that did in my professional circles would get very short shrift, believe me.

I hate the scaremongering that goes on about the NHS. That's a whole other thread though, isn't it, and certainly it's a very soft target just now.

Scarlet, save your ire for the bloke that actually uses such terms, don't tar a whole organisation in such a rotten way.

I think posters are focussing on the wfong thing here, the op said nothing about what it meant or why he said it. Let's focus on giving her support.

She asked us what we think he may have meant by it. That was the request in her OP. How would we feel about this. What would we think was meant by this. Can't wait to hear more views on this.

People are giving the OP what she asked for.

t no point does she say 'i can't wait to hear more views on this. She's obviously quite distressed by it (as anyone would be)

Yes, Gecko and we are showing support for her by sharing her revulsion at this horrible phrase. With a side dish of telling people who diss the NHS to wind it in. A good post's work, I'd say.

wontletmesignin Mon 04-Nov-13 23:03:13

no my elder children will be having nothing to do with this from now on.

cannot wait to see different peoples views on this though.

Ted Bundy means nothing to me at all. No idea who/what he/it is.

Reading the rest of the tread now...a phsycopath? What a horrid thing to be calling your children.

Keep your eldest two children away from him - and record any instances where anything at all happens regarding him being unpleasant. And monitor the way he is with his son.

Or if "TFBundy is medical slang for "Totally fucked but unfortunately not dead yet""

then that is even more horrible - so same applies.

Hula, it isn't medical slang at all. Not in Liverpool, nor in Manchester. I can attest to that.

Look the issue isn't whether it is slang in current usage, or in NHS usage or whatever. Or even whether it is urban myth. A quick google of the acronym shows that it exists in more than a few memories.

OP said tosser had called her kids Ted Bundy, another poster asked whether he might have in fact said TFBundy.

Couple of people recognised the name of serial killer, at least two of us recognised the (alleged) medical slang.

Both fairly archaic references. Both highly offensive.

Current NHS practice re immature junior staff and offensive acronyms is NOT the issue. OPs dikemma IS the issue......

yes, and we are here for her

except she last posted 24 hours ago so in the meantime, threads go off on tangents

'tis the MN way

Ah well. Hope she pops back.

So do I.

ok i am here. they keep banning my accounts. no doubt this one will be banned soon.
if you are reading - my posts are all very important to me right now - i have emailed asking to keep one open but no body is emailing back. which leaves me with no other choice but to create a new one! i may be impatient...im sorry

back to the matter of the thread.
thank you all for your views on this.
i am afraid he did not send my son to nursery today like he stated he would. (i will update more in other thread).
he has however claimed that i am never going to see him again. family joined in to chorus him also.

manipulating twat has managed to get them to believe him!
i am sick of my life - but holding on to the fact that the truth always comes out in the end!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i just want my son back with me!

you have been banned ? why ?

because i have too many accounts
because i created one on my phone and one on the pc as i couldn't remember details.
i spoke in both names on one thread and they noticed.
so after that, i had to create another one
which got me banned further
now i am here - with another one.
if only they listened to my emails

oh dear

i am so sorry. im just so stressed and lost right now

why don't you report your own post, it tends to get seen quicker than an email

would you like me to help you out with that ?

yes please. if you don't mind.
if i report my post, and would i then just explain the whole account situations?

thank you mist

Yes, you can report and tell them your difficulties in signing in.

thank you mist xx i have done that now, asking for this account to be left open. fingers crossed :)

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thank you mist xx i have done that now, asking for this account to be left open. fingers crossed :)

Sorry for all the confusion about this wontletmesigninagain - we think we've straightened things out this end, but do mail [email protected] if you're still stuck.

Are you ok, op?