Online dating photos - what is it with polo shirts and 'selfies' (I believe they are called)

[FolkGirl]

That's it really.

After trawling around my online dating site this afternoon in an attempt to find true love ... I am despairing at the photos of the available men.

Selfies - no, don't like them, people look strange on them.

Polo shirts - always hated them, always will. What is it with men over 39 and their love affair of all things polo shirts and beige slacks.

I could fucking cry!

That's it. Just getting it off my chest really.

They just need a nice lady to take them shopping and take a pic of them.

YOU!

looks over at dp in his beige chinos bless

At least they have clothes on!! Most of the ones that appear as my "matches" seem to have mislaid their tops

wot like THIS

or maybe THIS

I have lots more photos, if you like.

like em POSH in polo shirts...

Tawdry I'm not sure I could bring myself to be seen in public with most of them! Some of them are only a few years old than me and look like my dad!!!

Lovemy Ah delightful! Yes, I've blocked a few of those!

Essex Yes! That's exactly it! Although more like the first picture than the second!! You're alright, though, you can keep the other pictures to yourself.

....or if its online dating, probably a bit of rough innit..

Mm, tasty!

sorry, cross posted!

apparently there's a guy on pof who uses a pic of himself on the toilet.

what about the "seductive in bed selfies"?

(from 45 year old mechanics, called Dave)

I tried POF for about a month and found it very depressing. I honestly never realised there were so many physically unattractive men out there. I don't mind short men or bald men, but simply finding someone with reasonably regular features is almost impossible! Yet so many of them are terribly arrogant -why?????

I must have got over 100 sleazy pms, photos of erect penises, propositions for swinging/dogging, a few men who admitted they were married or lived with someone, several looking for something called "nawty fun" (a bizarre proposition in the strangely matronly looking men desiring it). It was so sordid, I had to stop, and will not use online dating again, it was that bad.

I think PoF is a bit like that from what I hear Zilvern

That's it EssexGeezer the seductive in bed selfies!

I've seen lots of men with perfectly acceptable features and profiles, but then it's all encased in beige slacks and a pastel striped polo shirt.

It's all very well saying I can take them shopping (and I hear that a lot), but how does that tie in with not trying to change them?!!!

I think the sort of man I am looking for is not to be found online...

I haven't noticed the polo shirt thing...but will now. I notice logo T-shirts, especially Americanisms, as I'm really not a fan of those.

What I am finding is that so many men shave a lot of years off their age, to the point where there are a lot of really rough looking "45" year olds who look at least 55

And why oh why do men contact me saying "love your profile, would love to meet you" when they clearly haven't read or inwardly digested a single word of it Most who say hello are outside my age range, way outside my requested location, and nothing at all (looks wise) like the description of the men I say I'm looking for So many times I find myself thinking "Mate, seriously?!"

Silver, I've found the best way of staying sane with online dating was to hide my profile and do the searching myself. I did that on POF and it's a much better experience now, but I've heard they've just changed the rules which means you can only now hide your profile if you upgrade. I registered with FreeDate yesterday and unfortunately there isn't a hide profile option there (and so many men who don't read my profile!), so back to ignore and block

Oh dear God, is this what I have to look forward to?!?!?!?

How about the gym instead?

I met my husband on POF. There are some diamonds among the mire.

I'm 49 and don't own a polo shirt or a pair of chinos.

I'm also very happlily married

?? is there a link there ??

There are quite a few men who have photos of themselves kissing dolphins (which I hate as I'm very anti captive marine mammals used for human entertainment) or holding bloody great big carp they've just caught (also not a fan as feel a little hmmm about fishing). I did ask one man (who weirdly was also the spitting image of Peter Griffin from Family Guy) why he was holding a fish and he said "it's a long story". I thought, it may have been a long day for you mate, but I think the story probably went along the lines of went fishing, caught a fish, had a trophy picture taken, LOL.

Andy I think you may have solved the problem!

There are also too many men with photos of themselves posing by their cars and photos of their dogs.

I agree Livid. I get winked at by men who haven't ready my profile and/or are actively the antithesis of what I am looking for.

Motorbikes. Lord preserve us from the mid-life crisis purchase motorbikes

Miserable faces in photos...usually from men who say they have a "GSOH" or "like a laugh"

Photos of men with their children. Are they planning on bringing them on a date?! IMHO it's just not appropriate to post pics of your kids on a dating site. It certainly doesn't sit well with me.

Photos of men who have pics of usually attractive women draped over them. If they are such a babe magnets why are they on a dating site? Plus do they not think perhaps potential dates might just compare themselves to these gorgeous women and think "nah, I don't match up, I'll give him a miss?

This thread made me laugh. I have recently ventured onto POF for a quick look and made a pretty speedy retreat. Cars, motorbikes and clearly dated photos...yikes!

Photos of men who have pics of usually attractive women draped over them. If they are such a babe magnets why are they on a dating site?hmm Plus do they not think perhaps potential dates might just compare themselves to these gorgeous women and think "nah, I don't match up, I'll give him a miss?

You've just described my exact thought process, in that order!

Hi All, im a newby so be gentle!
I went on POF earlier this year, i fell for the Mr Macho holding a small shark-alarm bells should have rung then!! I saw him for a month and had a nice time (fitness instructor with a body to die for!) but boy was he weird! All that came to an end and i plunged back in. I was asked out by a transvestite (i laughed rather than cried, but it wasnt my finest hour!), and went for coffee with a man who can only be described as a dwarf! Id made them emergency 'get me out of here' text whilst in the que and my friend duly saved me! Finally i met Mr Yum! we've been together 6 months now, im having the time of my life and feel like a giddy 16 year old at the thought of him still! Dont give up is my advice, screen harshly, and go with gut instinct!