DP is leaving me

[SmilesandSunshine]

It's my fault...I told him to go.

Oh hun. Didn't want to read and not post.um.. Is he leaving today, now? Or is this start of the end? Ok, I know it sounds stupid but are you ok?

No. I'm a horrible person. Crying my eyes out. He is sat in the bedroom with coat on, don't know what he is doing tbh...

Don't know the back story but maybe a little time apart would give everything chance to calm down?

Do you really think he's going or more of a reaction to what u said??

Has it been building up? Do you think a bit of time apart might actually help?

I'm sure you're not a horrible person... You're just upset. Deep breaths
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We have 2 dc, I didn't want this to happen

Im sure youre not a horrible person. Maybe it will all cool down and you can gain some perspective?

What bought this on?

(((((Hugs)))))

You must have had a reason to say 'go'?

Is this to do with the mugging?

Well he went. He loves us all apparently but cannot fight anymore, I had PND had AD's for a bit, stopped taking them cause I felt better but I am thinking now I don't think it did go.

I don't know where he has gone, but I have phoned his brother to warn him he may turn up there.

Buzzard I think you may have the wrong thread.

We have rowed a lot more since DS was born, he sits on his PC a lot and still reckons he does more around the house than I do (if I stopped doing things, he would notice at the very least he would have no clean clothes, and the house would be a ruin) I don't proclaim to be a domestic goddess, but I don't do fuck all.

Do you have any RL support to call on? I'm worried that you think you're a 'horrible person'. These things are rarely one-sided. What kinds of things have you been clashing over?

Since you told him to go why are you complaining that he's gone?

I expect OP is upset because she didn't expect him to go and it sounds like she is still depressed.

OP, can you get a Dr appointment for Monday to talk about how you feel?

He sounds like a prize catch
Let him go and come crawling back in a few weeks. Seriously, let him go. If life without you is better i will eat my hat.

Wow grunt, that's nasty. Are you honestly saying you'venever said anything in haste that you've regretted later?

Op, I hope you have some rl support, please keep posting, more knowledgable mnetters will be along soon who can give better advice.

Nope I don't have anyone.

I can't do single parent to 2dc, I'm enough of a fuckup as it is, DS has a gunky eye and I'm sure it is conjunctivitus

I can't find any cotton wool anywhere, I can't go to the shop as DD is in bed and I have no money anyway. I am shit

of course you can do single parent. Put the kids coats on and go down to the chemist to get something for his conjunctivitis. It will be good to get out.

You are not shit. Can you boil some water, put some salt in it and use some soft tissue to wipe it?

It's too early for your dd to be in bed. Get her up and dressed. Get money for medication for your ds from your DP before he leaves.

Another thing that sometimes works for conjunctivitis is a cold, used teabag. Use it to make a cup of tea, let it cool, and then wipe it across the eye whilst still wet. It might sound mad, but it seems to help.

You are not shit by the way. You are just feeling like it at the moment, but you are not. You are a good mum and a good person.

calm calm calm calmmmmm

it's going to be okay, it might just be a silly fight that got out of hand.
your not shit- your frazzled.

gunky eyes are fine, give it a wipe with a piece of kitchen roll and deal with that tomorrow.

get the kids in bed, get a cup of tea, find some chocolate and a blanket and curl up. stick some shit tv on and r-e-l-a-x.

bubble bath wouldn't hurt either

BTW I think anyone would be down being in a relationship with a partner that didn't pull his weight about the place and accused you of doing nothing. Even if you have been diagnosed with depression or anxiety, that kind of selfish behaviour is not going to help you feel better.

You know you can always call your GP and ask them to make a house-call if you are worried about the conjunctivitis. If you feel your anxiety and PND is getting worse they will also pay a visit for that.