The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The *Wine Witch* Into Touch, Because Enough Is Enough!

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Hello, tis me, Mouse :)

This is a thread for those who are worried about their drinking habits towards alcohol, or/and drugs.

Even if you think that you are drinking more tonight than last night or this week than last, come and have a chat, find a seat, we don't bite!

We are a supportive Bus, full of very different posters, from various backgrounds. Some of us drink in moderation, allowing ourselves the odd glass or two as a treat, or just because we're in control of our drinking for that day.

One Day At A Time.

We have those who abstain completely, and those who wake every day to Day 1 and hope with all of their hearts that they can, and will, make it to Day 2.

If you've followed our journey to date, you'll know who most of us are by now :) and we kind of have two 'sayings', that sum up who we are -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

That said, we will not have any bashing of support groups, such as AA or Community Support Teams or even your own GP.

This Bus is a place for honesty, sanctuary and safety, something that has taken four years for a number of very special, very lovely, very honest and caring Babes to establish.

So, come find a seat, grab something warm from the supply cupboard at the back of the Bus as it's going to be cold tonight! Brrrr!

And, if you'd like to read back over some of our history, HERE IS THE LAST THREAD

And, HERE IS WHERE IT ALL BEGAN

We hope to meet you soon :) xxx

IsinDe - I hope DP is going to share the load with you sweets. It's not on, you both work, things should be split evenly. Much love to you xxx

Ma - Kick that witchy bitch in the face lovely xxx

Putting the boy to bed, back in a mo.

Can we stay strong together ma ? I'm glad I just read your post before going sleeps x

We did it I'm . we did today. It was just one day, not too bad. I didn't want to let you down when I had my wobble so you helped me a lot today. Am in bed now with a cup of tea so safe. Let's do it again tomorrow.

Yes let's ma .... Sounds like a plan

I'm in bed too all locked in

Save me a seat beside you tomorrow won't you ? sleep well lovely

ma is it the wankbadger?

Venus please come back and post. I said upthread that I was a long time lurker and fate calls, a Buddhist Meditation Group is starting locally. He is offering a "drop in" service for an hour before the serious stuff begins. This is something that I would not have considered before "meeting" you. Worth a try maybe? PS I am heading towards 2 bottles of wine a night... .

ma has a wankbadger ?

Thank you isinde

Day three for me today

Hope your ok,

Hi all

Well it's half term here - I work term time and it's usually the holidays where I fall off the wagon - so today and this week I have a lot of stuff planned - re-decorating the bathroom, my auntie is staying for a few days, stuff with the kids and all the usual food prep, housework etc. I am amazed at how much I can get done when I've kicked the ww in the murry.

Can I just share that when I got sober (properly) it took a good six months to break some really disruptive habits that ma & dp had fallen into. Along with falling into the wine bottle, I'd also fallen into a pit of despair, self blame, depression and inertia. My dp had followed my habits and was very hurtful and I was the family scapegoat for everything. The situation looked hopeless and I thought that we'd have to seperate - it was all so painful. A very good friend in AA said make being sober your priority, don't try and fix everything, and don't make any major changes (apart from sobriety) for at least six months. Little by little, week by week I changed and got better, less depressed, more pro-active, full of energy. More stuff got done, more stuff got planned and followed through, and my dp's attitude to me changed. Not overnight, not as much as I felt I deserved, but non the less changed for the better.... and finally when the fog of alcohol cleared (it did take some time) we had proper discussions about important things, we had been so scared up to that point, of the future, that we didn't want to plan anything.

Now - life is no way perfect - but it is manageable, I love waking up in the morning clear headed. I love that fact that there are no self inflicted drama's to sort out. My children can feel secure in their home - mum is not going to have a screaming match with dad - the difference in their behaviour is so noticeable - I thought that I had hid the worst from them - oh no not at all. I cannot change the past - I have no idea what the future will bring, the only thing I can change is the here and now - by not giving the ww room in my head or house. Without taking that first drink I have the present, here, with my family.

If this is your goal Babes - you can have it - it is out there for you x

Test results have come back clear. They want to to an ultrasound to br entirely sure but Dr doesn't have any worries.I'm off to be sick in relief...

Will light a candle in gratitude this pm and NOT celebrate with wine. think the diet might have to wait for another day though.

Thank you all for the good wishes.

ma and I'm I love the support you gave each other. It's absolutely the best way of beating the ww.Well done and I hope you have another good sober one tonight.

isinde my heart goes out to you, I hope you both have a better day today. Stay sober babe some aspect of your relationship may change but it's likely to be for the better. 5 days is awesome.Big changes and small children are always going to be a tricky balance but please stick with it lovely.

guggs wonderful news I feel your relief, so happy for you and DS. xxx

at it being the wankbadger....that made me laugh a lot.
I have decided not to keep a tally of days as then I feel more of a failure when I lapse. So another day 1 here.
indie love - you guys need some time out to talk things through before the situation gets any worse. Resentment will grow like a fungus in both of you and eat away at all the good things you still have.
guggs great news on DS - what a relief.

Well, DS spent much of last night in tears at the thought of going back to school today after half-term. he started secondary in August and although no concern has been expressed by any of the teachers, he says he hates it and doesnt have any friends. He hasnt gone this morning! Waiting for a call from the guidance staff......

I'm are you still with me? - I kept you my best opal fruit.

isinde (( hugs))

guggs I don't know your situation sounds like good news though!

I'm struggling to feel strong today, feel tired and just not got my hard hat on today
Sorry If Im posting to much

Oh!! ( jumps up and down in excitement )

What colours the best?

I'm 100% still with you ma I'm sat snugly
you don't get rid off me that easily honey!!

Isinde

Hello
Puts both feet back in the bus and steals the opal fruits. Fab to be back. Will think and write more later. Soc xx

guggs that's fantastic news, thank goodness!

isinde sorry to hear about the crap that's going down. I don't have any answers but better to row and face up to issues than bury head in sand ( or wine)

I feel like 50 shades of shit today. Enough, back on bus, day 1. It will be hard as guests here and wine in the house but I don't want to feel like this tomorrow!

guggs good to hear your news

ma that's tough about your wee man. My DD has also just started secondary and it is such a big change for them. Do they have a good pastoral care team? They will have seen all of this before, and hopefully give you support and advice...

and yes, I did see where you hid the Opal Fruits

sharpkat how are you doing babe?

This is probably my third name change on this thread over the past two years or so... I feel like a loser as I Cannot Do It :( I can stop drinking for days, months, I can be strong in pubs, at home with dh drinking, I will go running, and exercise and feel fabulous...and then, I will fuck it up, really really fuck it up. I don't want to sound self pitying so will just say I had a pretty awful childhood, horrible time in my twenties (single parent, drinking from 10am till dark for a while) and have tried and tried and tried to stop. Tried AA, and will not return - awful experiences, tried self help books, tried doing it on my own, I have tried everything. Have had a hideous few days bingeing - blackout in a restaurant with people I love very much, attacked dh. God, need I go on. Please help me :( I know that today I'm having the typical remorseful, depressed self pitying day, and I must stop. Also having a very difficult time with my mother which is seriously causing stress. Please. What can I do??