I can't' believe AnyFucker has been banned!

[Piffalato]

Seriously! For 'too many personal attacks'!

AnyFucker helped me so much when I was seeing my manipulative, controlling and abusive ex.

She enabled my knob radar and helped put me in the right headspace to get rid of him.

Yep, she's forthright, there's no fannying about with her, but I for one like her approach.

I totally agree with differentname.

I find myself saying "what Cogito said" more often than "what AF said" for example.

Responding to goading only helps to derail threads and make the very people giving advice look unreasonable.

I don't know the background to all this, but just want to throw in that to my mind, Anyfucker, Cogito and Solidgoldbrass are the oracles, gods even, of Mumsnet. Though there are any other brilliant regulars too.

many, even

This is all getting really weird now

melanie58

Oh please! They are not oracles or Gods. They are just names of posters that you notice more than anyone else.

I don't consider any poster on here a God, or an oracle & saying that anyone on here deserves or is worthy of either of those titles is doing a massive disservice to all the other posters who spend their time advising & supporting others!

Wow - quite shocked at this to be honest.
I like AF and her responses.
Honest and to the point and very helpful.
End of!

true, she isn't the one who helps, I do too and so do thousands of others, and I doubt if I was banned there was an outrage - but it's not about that.

if she got banned or suspended because we had disagreed and had told me to fuck off and that would have been one to many PAs from her - that would have been fairy nuff.

It's about the way it happened that pisses off a lot of us.
and how the CFD seemingly has got away with it .

and FWIW I'm not her "groupie", I hardly know her and the last time we "talked" I strongly disagreed with her - but I will stand by her, because she was pushed into loosing her rag by what seems to be a deliberate attack.

and if that is true, that is disgusting, pathetic.

it's the equivalent of someone bothering you at school during a lesson and when you speak up and tell them to be quiet you get punished - while the smug motherfucker who roped you in knowing you'd snap will get away, looking all sweet and innocent.

whoop whoop if you agree

my very first sentence should have been

true, she isn't the only* one ....

well obviously not absolutely literally, Different....

It's about the way it happened that pisses off a lot of us.

What? That she got warned several times to stop? And didn't?

CFD seemingly has got away with it

Got away with what? Posting a different opinion? Getting carried away? Like some other folk on here?

and how the CFD seemingly has got away with it

How do you know that CFD 'got away with it?' Perhaps she/he was warned by MN for the first time on the outcome of that thread & just decided not to draw attention to the fact of it? I haven't seen CFD post today, so perhaps she got suspended too?

The only reason anyone knows that AF has been suspended is because she told someone, who let it out on here (incorrectly implying, btw, that AF had got a permanent ban - hence the furore). If AF had not mentioned it, no one would be any the wiser. They wouldn't even be talking CFD or that thread at all.

To me, it says a lot about a person who is quick to point out that they have been 'banned' from here. It is like they know it will cause a holy show & that they want that attention.

me, had I been banned/suspended I would just comply & wait to see if I could post again, shouting to the world has an air of self importance about it, in my opinion!

Exactly, ubik!

No, sorry, I've been following 'that thread' and posting on it.

CFD has been a goady fucker from the off. Not posting different opinions, but taking other people's opinions and picking them apart for the sheer fun of it at times, without actually making any significant contributions to the discussion. Visibly upsetting the OP of the thread and then gloating about AF's suspension on other threads - nice, normal behaviour? I don't think so.

I've noticed that a lot over the past few days - I wonder how many new members MN has had off the back of some of the shite articles lately?

You don't know the exact circumstances of how this got out, so speculating about a person "who is quick to point out that they have been 'banned'" is unfair.

I am a fan of hers. She gives consistent sage, and to the point advice (and then some).

Why do people seem so aggressive towards her? The only posters I ever take against are the obvious trolls, and/or those with genuinely repugnant views. Seems an unnecessary waste of emotion to me.

It's people like AF that make MN a success, IMO.

hahahahahaha

Here a poster admits that she started the original thread

Porto, I see that you acknowledge above that you started the original thread but recognise that it got a bit out of hand. On that thread, you said that you had heard direct from AF that she'd been banned? Why did you not say it was just a suspension for a week? That, surely, would have resulted in a few huffs and moans but IMO no way near as much of a fuss.

Why do people seem so aggressive towards her?

I haven't seen aggression towards her, I am not being aggressive towards her. I just don't understand or like the constant implications that she is the only person who supports/advises here. I know people don't mean it like that, but it is coming across that NO ONE gives what she does & that is not true!

OK, thank you different. I would still prefer to hear these things from the horses mouth, so to speak.

I'm still unsure as to why a lot of people are frothing at the mouth in general.

But that's your opinion, surely. Others clearly think differently.

Heartbrokenmum73

if your "how many new member off the back of shite articles" is meant as a dig towards those who have posted here NOT in full support of AF, can I just say that I have been here, in various guises since 2003.

I'm still unsure as to why a lot of people are frothing at the mouth in general.

At the fact that others on MN seem to imply that it will cease to function without her. People (myself included) have been called smug, been told that we think DV must be laughable, been told to fuck off, had it implied that we haven't helped anyone, all because we don't agree with all the fuss over one poster who has been forced to take a week off.

Bigging her up, putting her on pedestal & making (up to last count) 17 threads about it, accusing Justine & the rest of MNHQ of lying as to whether it was a ban or suspension, calling her (as well as other posters) an oracle or God of MN is way OTT.

Everyone has their place here, no one person is more important than the other.

People need to stop acting as if they are!

No way:(

I think that there are certain posters who contribute more than others, simply by want of giving more time to MN, I expect. There's nothing wrong in acknowledging that. It doesn't mean other posters' contributions are meaningless.

My point is-you can't force people to react differently! You can point out your disagreement with them, but you can't fly in the face of reality-she clearly has helped a lot of people, as evidenced by these threads.

Anyway, cheer up, she'll be back soon