Is it normal to fancy other people when married?

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I've been married to DH 4 years, have had no real attraction to other men, apart from now - to just one man, and I hardly know him anyway. (Saying that, I've not been particularly attracted to DH recently either, due to two small DC and the sheer exhaustion that brings).

Does it mean something is lacking between me & DH? Or is it normal to have a little crush/whatever you call it, on another person?

Professorgromit I'm hardly slobbering over a sexy man though am I? I've already said it's not based on his looks. And I'm not slobbering anyway. MN posters do like to run away with an idea

Just saying what's it like on receiving end of this? What would dh think? Especially if you then said you don't fancy him much anymore. What would you feel if he said that to you after you caught him lusting and flirting after another woman? Brush it off as harmless fun or would you be hurt?

Has op been "lusting and flirting" ?

It all sounds more like a vague "woo-hoo, he's a bit of alright" to me

FWIW, I have been accused of running away with a subject countless times on MN, but I am very very meh about this one. (no disrespect to OP)

Just because your married doesn't stop the odd fantasy, I hope.

I know exactly what I wanted to with the nice dad at the school gate.

DH has his fantasies too, neither of them are ever going happen anymore than mine is!

And yes we do share our crushes and joke about the utter chaos that would occur if he did sleep with a DF who's DC drives DD2 crazy. Would be step families from hell, 'tiss not going to happen

But I haven't been flirting professorgromit - for DH to do the same as me he'd have to be polite and reasonably friendly with a woman and offer her a cider