What is phone sex?

[Crawling]

I have bipolar and I get hhyper sexual and sleep around while manic. So dh and I agreed to phone sex in order to attempt to atop me sleeping around. We never specified any more than phone sex or what constitutes phone sex.

While manic I had what I consider to be phone sex. This involved masturbating on the phone and sending pictures and videos,

Dh came across a video and was angry as he thinks phone sex does not involve videos and pictures. I see now that we should have been more specific but I'm interested in what others consider to be phone sex? Thank you,

Should add dirty texts were also said to be okay.

I would have thought that "phone sex" would just be talking, no visuals. Isn't that "sexting"? You're still making yourself very vulnerable.

Doesnt sound very conventional to me. Maybe u should have counselling for this promiscuous behaviour, rather than putting ur DH through this kind of pain.

Do u really think dh is ok with this?
ALOT of my close family and friends have bipolar and DO NOT do this kind of behaviour.

If u want to have a sexual connection with someone else- seperate fron ur poor dh rather than putting him thru this!!

Hmmm

Yet midwifeandmum you are very ignorant of bipolar not all people suffering bipolar are sufferes of hyposexuality in fact it's rare even among bipolard. No too bipolar people suffer the same symptoms.

I've offered dh divorce he doesn't want this I have pointed out I am likely to have more episodes but he wants to find a way we can both live with this.

Check my posting history I'm a regular.

I don't think it really matters what 'others' think constitutes phone sex.
What matters is what is agreed within your own relationship between you and your DH.

I agree that IC would be a good idea to help with the 'promiscuous' behaviour, especially if it's impulsive and involves you risk taking (ie WRT unplanned pregnancy and STI'S).

I have always thought phone sex to be mutual masturbation over the phone... Useful when there is distance between you & a partner. But outside of a partnership still quite anonymous where as pictures & videos could be more of a deal breaker for him. Each to their own though I guess.

I would have thought phone sex involves sound or text only. Not pictures and certainly not videos. The idea is the anomymity and that anything can be said.

Pictures and videos are basically sharing homemade pornography.

I see thank you for your replies 7(apart from the troll hunters) I'm very grateful for your non judgemental replies.

Why not just have more sex with your DH when you are feeling uber horny? Why the need to go elsewhere even if it is 'only' by phone?
Sorry you think people are being judgy- tbh it's very hard not to be because you appear to be making a mental health condition a reason to sleep around. That can't be right, surely?

I think the OP wants to hear that phone sex is where she and whoever she's picked up put their phones together On the side table to be friends while they go at it.

And no, I can't take this post seriously....

How often do you have manic episodes?

I'd have thought phone sex was verbal and sexting. Pictures can be considered sexting, lines are not that clear though. It really is down to you and your DH and what you are both comfortable with.

I don't think most people are being judge that's why I said thank you.

I can't sleep with my husband because my paranoia means I believe he wishes to rape me and that he is abusing my dc would you sleep with someone you were convinced was about to rape either you or his kids?

I've had Facebook chat sex with an old school mate. After a while he wondered why I was not replying. I was in the other room "finishing myself off"

First time I have heard of bi-polar leading to 'hyper sexual' feelings? Has this been diagnosed by a medical expert?

Yes it has I don't stric. Have bipolar I have scizoaffective which is all the symptoms of bipolar 1 and episodes of scizophrenia

Why are people saying 'troll'?

Hypersexuality is a side affect of hypomania and mania. Along with risk taking (closely linked to promiscuity).
Also linked to alcohol intake and possibly drug abuse which also increase sexual activity.

You could try skype.

@PipkinsPal

That's a bit inconsiderate!!!!

Crawling is not a troll. I've seen her posts on here for years. Hypersexuality is a recognised symptom of bipolar, although it can express itself in various ways.

Crawling, I'm not sure there's a way to manage it TBH. My friend has bipolar and was similar to you, requiring anti-psychotics to control paranoia etc as well as mood-stablisers. In the midst of two very horrible episodes she chose random strangers off the internet and brought them back to her house. If you knew this woman you'd know how out of character this was. I understand how an uncontrolled manic episode can be out of control and make someone behaved in a way completely at odds to their normal persona. People have gambled away houses in the midst of manic episodes of bipolar. That tends to be proper type 1 bipolar rather than the more 'fashionable' type 2 often thrown around in the media.

The only way my friend controlled it is by controlling the bipolar IYSWIM. She's been sectioned numerous times throughout the course of her illness, but has been really well and without significant episodes for about 5 years now. The main difference for her was finally accepting that she had to take her medication even when she felt well, and getting to her psychiatrist as soon as she began to feel a little off balance rather than waiting to see if it would pass. I don't know if any of that would apply in your case though, so possibly not that helpful.

To get back to your OP. I would think of phone sex as conversations on the phone, without video, involving masturbation. But that may be because I am old and skype-sex wasn't around when I was first discovering sex.

Thank you very much yougotbale and dahlen. I am New to diagnosis only a few years in dahlen and my meds are still not sorted and I'm not very good at recognising episodes yet.

Hope you get a handle on it all soon. Good luck.