pregnant. husband doesn't love me

[anon81]

So I'm 32 and 8 weeks pregnant with my first child. My husband of 11 years told me a couple of days back he doesn't love me any more and wants to leave. He says I should have an abortion as it is a simple procedure and would mean we could both move on with our lives without involving a child in a single parent household. He had often said he is not ready for kids but if it happens then it happens. Needless to say this want planned. I however am desperate for a child but was willing to wait. Initially he said he wasn't sure if he wanted to stay and I said I would be willing to have an abortion if he wanted to leave. This was however a lie. I just didn't want to bring up a child in a loveless marriage. Now he says he Def dosn't love me and wants to leave. But got upset that I then chucked him out that night. My thinking being if he wants to go then he should go. When he told mei drove out to the middle ofa field so I could think. Then drove toa friends to talk. He is now saying I made him homeless without even talking to him. When I was in the fieldi did call him but all he really wanted to talk about was me having an abortion. I am determined to keep this baby but am finding myself very low and second guessing the choices I have made. I am so lonely without him. Being together since we were 17 means he is all I've ever known. But I don't want a bad relationship having bad effects on our child. Sorry to ramble on.

[mammadiggingdeep]

Ok- so he wants to be involved but he shouldn't be ruining your pregnancy. Telling you he didn't feel excited etc...that's just going to dampen what is a magical time for you.

My advice is to take a friend as well...are you allowed 2 people in the scan room? If not, ask your friend to wait outside and then they can swap over so that she sees the screen too. You deserve to have somebody there to share the excitement with...chatting about it on the train home etc.

[anon81]

yer that is a good idea, I think I might try to get my friend to come along

[feelinlucky]

My ex wanted me to abort my son too and occasionally reminded me while we were with our child that he never wanted him. I've been a single parent now for nearly ten years and I've never regretted a single second. My child is the most precious and amazing little being I've ever encountered. You'll be fabulous and can absolutely do it on your own.

[anon81]

Finding the evenings particularly difficult at the moment, I get quite lonely, I've been trying to make new friends, but its hard as I am housebound a lot of the time. Can't wait till baby is here, then I will be too busy to be lonely :). Trying to stay positive :)

[anon81]

Btw I have tried to have as little contact as possible, only texting when I need to sort out practical issues now.