I want to believe this is innocent but am not sure it is

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Tonight I borrowed DHs phone to make a call and saw the number of a female colleague in his history a lot - checked back as far as I could and he's pretty much been speaking to her for up to 40 minutes at a time almost every day. He commutes on the train and that's when these calls are. I asked him about it and he says it's just catching up and they mainly talk about work but I can't believe it's really necessary for them to speak this much. He has calls to other colleagues but they're 3, 5, 10 minutes - not 30 or 40.

I don't know much about her but know she is married too.

Is it normal to speak to someone as much as that? I don't know if I'm being silly to be annoyed but some days he must spend longer talking to her than he does to me.

Agree FB, good approach

This could be totally innocent or not ; if it's made you concerned then I wouldn't ignore it but go with the view innocent until proven guilty ?

My 'dh' had his affair with a work colleague. His PA ( who took her title very seriously? )

I if I rang him on his journey to or from work - it was always engaged. He would ring me back fairly quickly though.
After D Day , I found out that yes , it was the 2 of them talking on the phone away from ' work ears ' or indeed ' my ears'.

Being his PA she had booked them both off for DDay & her for the rest of the week for him to move his stuff in.....

This would concern me. My DH doesn't do chatting on the phone - when we were first seeing each other we did but not since then. So if he had calls of this length to a woman i am pretty certain there would be something bad in it.