I hope I never fall in love again

[WelshBoris]

I really really dont

I could survive without it so why bother?

Me too. It's all a big con, imo.

So you want to activel y stay out of love, let no-one near you, remain alone for the rest of your life, really??????? Do you want to be 85 and on yyur deathbed ad never have loved again and loved back in return reallyt????????????

Something go wrong with the new man WB?

People keep saying to me that its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all... I tell them to Fuck Off.

Sounds pretty good to me, tc.

god, really WB? how come?

new man lasted days couldnt be bothered

i was just sitting thinking about how bad i felt when i split with babies dad

it physically hurt for ages

why bother

Really???????
You never want to love anyone, and have that love returned???

Jesus, you must have been hurt beyond my comprehension.
Sorry, about being hurt so badly

im not after sympathy im sure others have been thru worse

dont know what the point of the thread is actually

i just think i can survive without love

Yeah, falling on love and it going wrong does really really hurt for ages and ages. But it doesn't hav e to scar you forever, unless you let it.

You put those barriers up and feel that way then you probably won't ever love, or be loved again. Seems sad and unnecessery to me. Never say never is my motto. Shame the hurt can't make you stronfger, not just bitter and defensive ad angry etc.

i am strong
hence not falling in love again

Hmmm, well be careful what you wish for.
You might survive for a bit an good on yeh, but just hope you don't live by this I can survive on my own thing and end up an old, bitter, hateful, lonely, angry, sad old woman. If you can survive and remain HAPPY for the next X amount of years then crack on. Go for it.

Hmmm if you were that strong why are you so scared of loving and being loved again?

WB, I was talking about this very subject to a friend today.

I said, I have a gorgeous son whom I adore, I have lots of lovely friends that I know I can count on, I love my parents (even if they drive me insane) - why bother chasing after anything else? She couldn't think of an answer!

there is no answer

Oh FFS - yes there is an answer.
Jesus - when you were in love didn't it feel good?
Wsan't it great at times? Didn't you mamke a baby together? Those moments of feeling great - they are your answer.

Go ahead and feel shit and be angry, sure, I don't balme or begrudge you that, but do you really have to wipe love out of your life forever?

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Hmmm - well I was pretty much of that view about 12 years ago after my marriage had broken up - EXarse ran away with a french tart

But you know, I don;t think you go looking for love - I think it kindof finds you!

I think it's quite rational to feel as you do now - but love when (and if) it finds you again, isn;t rational

I'm happily with a new DH, have had two wonderful children and whilst I wouldn;t have missed it if I hadn;t of had it - knowing what I know now, I'm so glad I was brave enough to let someone new into my heart!

Whatever form it takes - I hope you find happiness in your life, and of course happiness comes in many guises

Agree with TC (hi TC).

I think ruling it out for the rest of ever is scary and sad and lonely

WB.
Sounds like he's hurt you very much.

I accepted a while ago that I'll never have a serious long term relationship again, but am quite enjoying the odd fling. Quite liberating, really.

dont do flings

IKWYM. It hurts in your chest and your stomach, and you swing between not being able to eat and binge eating. Youre tired all the time even though you havent done anything particually strenous and it doesnt seem to matter that you have no clean clothes because the alternative - putting the washing on, just seems like to big a task. The phone rings and you jump, the door knocks and you jump, you see someone wearing a similar jacket and you freeze... its horrible, and it really does pysically hurt

But

The feeling of being loved, wanted and needed, of having someones arms round you, of knowing that if you disappeared of the face of the earth that someone would notice. Being made to laugh, feeling special, getting butterflies... and everything else that goes along with it, for me makes it worth while.

Hi Rickman - I couldn't be arsed with him Nice enough guy but...god, who can be bothered to go through all that again? I just don't have the energy for relationships anymore. The mere thought of getting involved with someone again gives me the shivers, tbh.

Going to bed now

too much for me tonight cant get his head out of my face i can feel him next to me

WB