The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Travelling Far And Wide, With Sobriety In Mind.

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Welcome to the Bus one and all! I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes :)

We have a new line that we're taking with us on every journey, thanks to one of our wonderful Babes, Curry -

Alcohol Fosters Inertia.

So when you're drinking excessively, nothing changes, or improves, the sharp edges of our lives just becomes that little bit less in focus, blurred and all you feel is numb. Then like shit (emotionally, as well as physically) if you're honest! Who wants that?

You are only ever better/pacified/happy whilst the alcohol is in your system. And that doesn't last........... it's not a cure, it's a quick fix. A sticking plaster.

So, if you think you're drinking too much, and want some friendly advice, or just to come and have a chat, get to know others who are just like you, who won't judge or criticise you, then hop on board! :)

We're a really mixed bunch and all at different stages of our journey to find sobriety or certainly drinking in a more controlled, less dangerous way.

And, if you'd like to see where we've been so far, have a look at the links below :)

LAST THREAD

THE STARTING POINT AND WHY WE'RE ALL HERE

Daisy have something to eat. It really does help. The kids will still be screaming at each other whether you drink or not, but you will feel worse on top of it if you do drink.

Don't go to the shop. Go in the morning tomorrow when you are less likely to be tempted.

Hi Babes, may I ride with you a while? I am a long time lurker, in fact I read the first threads and was so inspired that I stopped drinking for nearly 3 months. As a reward (for proving to myself that I could control my drinking) I allowed myself lots and lots of wine. Fast forward a few years and I am drinking wine pretty much every night. On the occasional dry night, I sleep well, wake up proud and relieved, only to slip back by 7pm in the evening.

When I look back drink has been a big part of my life since early teens, overshadowed for a while when other substances took center stage in my twenties. I grew up (??) and stopped that in favour of a civilised wine habit instead (!) I am now in my forties and know deep down that I have barely any control over it. It doesn't stop all the elaborate lies I tell myself to justify why MY drinking isn't a problem though.

Today I am being honest with myself and I really want to try and create a different existence. The thing is, I know I am going to need some help so please, if I could just take a quiet seat somewhere on the bus and listen to your gentle chatter, I think it may help me.

Hi beaches and welcome. Great to have so many new babes on board

You're welcome to sit and listen but, having stopped for 3 months, I'm sure you got some good tips to share too?

Beaches your story is much like mine. We can try together if that would help.

I believe that I'm killing myself with the poison called wine. A 3 litre box between Friday to Sunday. I've had enough

Thanks Faire, I've had dinner, dropped my boy off and one of the dads is taking him home. No wine in the house. There are cans of apple cider but I won't be tempted by them.

Well done Daisy, that's today nearly in the bag, not long to go now

Thanks for the welcome Faire and Daisy it would be good to try to do it together. Sounds like you have set things up for success tonight, good luck and focus on waking up tomorrow guilt free - that is what I plan to do. I am 4 hours behind the UK in time difference so I will imagine that you have done it by the time my 'itch' really starts hounding me!

Thanks Isinde Hope the playhouse does the trick.

Just want to send love and strength to all my fellow babes, no matter how alone you feel or how hard it seems, you can do this, no one on this bus is ever alone, you have us xxxx

Wow beaches your story is so like mine too! I could have written that! And daisy I've had to stop with those wine boxes as I had some really awful hangovers earlier this year and I now try and stick with not much more than a bottle in house at a time. I'm on day two now but trying not to think about it all too much....did something bad the other nite and after having a few argued with dp and mouth ran away with me:-( imagine all the things u think about your mil but obviously don't say. Well I did:$

Oh dear Pickle! Although I'm lucky. I actually rather like my mil I'm off to bed AF. Happy about that. Although I'm going to bed so I stop eating. I've had a packet of square crisps, a bowl of frosties followed by some pistachios!!!

Gosh too many people to name check.
tango you rock, babe
beaches welcome
And jango my heart breaks for you. Please, please see your gp and ask for help. If you really want to stop you can be prescribed a chemical to help you detox and then support from your local alcohol support group and one to one counsellor. The drugs do work. My brother was on 3 bottles of wine a day and dying before he finally begged for help. He is still sober and well and healthy and enjoying life AF for the first time in years. Pick up the phone babe and call the Samaritans...please do it now. They will get you through tonight and into a new dawn tomorrow.

que tu es belle ce soir latrollopeen ta chemise noire. Tu travails dans ton petit jardin des vegetables?

Thanks babes for the support, another rocky evening with DD upset, DH angry and me drinking

ma just wanted to say WELL DONE on your 4 days + you done good

Thanks alias.
Have you spoken to the school about identifying help for dd and her anger issues?
Is she at secondary school? The guidance and welfare teams can be pretty good.
Can you go out somewhere together for a hot chocolate or something and try and tease out what it is she is angry about in a calm environment without dh at this stage?

daisy how are you getting on?
Past the witching hour now?

why are you ok? How did today go? Well it's been a tough day for many on our trusty little bus but its nearly over and there will be a lot of happy babes When tomorrow is hangover free!! velvet yes for the first few weeks I was getting up through the night for tea and biscuits and my dreams were vivid and sometimes disturbing. I guess we are detoxing a poison on which or body has relied upon so without the sedatory effect of wine, sleep patterns will take a while to adjust? Though that said its still soooooo worth it when you shuffle into the kitchen for coffee without that parched, headachy, sick feeling a hangover brings, soooo worth it xxx

Babyjane1 that was such a lovely post

Hi Pickle, it is comforting to think there are others who have been/are on a similar journey. I have certainly said more than I meant to on many occasions and cringed at myself for days after. Well done on day 2.

Daisy, a few crisps and nuts can't be as bad on your liver than the usual poison. Sleep well.

Hello Ma and Alias

ma she's just started at secondary school - I know your DS is the same! - but I don't like to pile in demanding support after only 2 weeks.

Unfortunately DH will be taking her tomorrow - I have to go to work early - and that could be a battle! We've heard good things about the guidance team but DD already said she wouldn't know what to say to them...

How's your wee man settling in?

Hi babyjane. Yes, saw my son this morning. My husband hadn't cut my sons nails so there were tiny scratches on his face, and he was wrapped in the dog blanket .

Anyway, spoke to lovely woman at the place who assured me most certainly that I would get my son back and sooner rather than later.
Went for a 2 hour mental health assessment. Apparently, I am bipolar.
I have been sent for more tests.

Another AA meeting tonight. No matter what happens: I'm sober today, and I'll be sober tonight. I can only start again in the morning.

Thanks for all your concern.

The important thing Joey is that they will know what to say to her. And she probably won't have to say anything at first, just start to get to know them and to know where they are, how to contact them and that they are there whenever she needs them.

They really won't mind if you get in touch this early on in the term. They would rather that than her go on worrying. They are professionally trained. My friend's dd saw counsellors at her school and they made sure that her teachers were sensitive to her needs, were kind and helpful to her and let her leave lessons to go to a counsellor if she needed to.

Sometimes a harsh comment from a teacher (deserved or not) can be all it takes to really upset a vulnerable young person and if teachers are aware that they need to either go easy, or perhaps be firm but fair, they can build better relationships with individual students.

why that is wonderful news. I've got a on my face from ear to ear x

Hi guys, thanks so much for the welcome.

Today has been fine but the temptation to drink doesn't usually hit until later in the week.

Oh Pickle, I take it your DH wasn't too chuffed?

Help I'm in a mess hate it x

I dream of a life, life without trouble anxiety drink or me. I hate myself to a point were I don't want to Be here. I would never end it as I have son husband family but I don't want to be here cant take this stupid problem n e more. ! Sorry to be self observerd I hate myself n wot I. Have become