My DH and me have different sex drives. I suppose its the usual story after having ds 10 and dd 5 you lose I interest and the opportunity to do it. I'm happy with 2-3 times a week but DH wants it every day and if he doesn't get it he gets extremely grumpy. He's making the whole thing such an unpleasant issue that its putting me off it and him entirely - yet he does not see my point at all. Sometimes after a hard days work when I go to bed I'm fit to drop, the last thing on my mind is sex. Lately though the reaction has taken a turn for the worse, if I say no he says I'm wierd and not normal- great way to try and get your partner in the mood! So I clam up and there's no way he's getting it then. But yesterday things took a real turn. I had been on a late night out for one of my close friends birthdays on sat night, he stayed in with the kids one of which was on a play date so he only really had one. I had prepared dinner for them which he only had to warm up. Sunday night I took the two kids to a local fair til 9 and we had our tea out. DH stayed in watching the football. Sunday night no sex. In the middle of the night dd came in after having a nightmare and I ended up in her bed settling her down and eventually fell asleep there. No work Monday for me so I slept in. Heard DH about 7 pottering but didn't get up. I went back to my own bed about 8 and he came in in a right grump. Then he got into bed and tried it in and I told him to get lost I was not in ghd mood and wasn't going to be moaned at for not getting up earlier to make time for sex. He went ballistic threw the washing basket everywhere and started to hit me with the lid bruising all my arms and legs - this is all whilst thank his the kids were asleep. He really bloody scared me and really hurt me. He said he wants to leave and I don't want him to stay. He won't leave until he has half the share if the equity in the house. It's a nightmare it could take months to sell the house and I'm stuck with him. He does have a short fuse and has been verbally abusive to me before but never physically, then like most abuser is soooo nice in between as long as he is getting his own way, my god reading this you must think I'm so stupid staying here and putting up with this man. I started this thread thinking is it my fault for turning him down. He also started raging about how he'd looked after the kids do I could go out flaunting myself - what a joke! I go out maybe 4-5 times a year oh I'm rambling now help? I feel really stupid that I can't exit this relationship and feel its all my fault :(