Please describe your decent, 'normal' relationship with DH/DP - what's it like?

[Clipbo4rd]

I've only posted once, and my situation and all the answers I got really enlightened me to the fact that my own relationship is terrible.

However, I have no real idea what a good, decent and 'normal' one is like as DH was my first serious boyfriend, my parents had a rubbish marriage, just staying together out of habit.

So please can people try and explain what their relationship is like, how does your DH/DP treat you, how do you spend your time together, how do you talk to each other, show your appreciation etc etc.

Bit strange I know, but I'd really, really appreciate an insight in to how my own marriage should be.

Thanks :-)

[sparklekitty]

We speak to each other pleasantly, try very hard not to be snappy (which is hard with a non sleeping baby) but call each other on it and apologise if we do.

We're lucky that we enjoy the same TV, films etc so not much compromise needed. However, I'll often suggest he watches his gardeners world while I faff etc. He appreciates it rather than just thinking it's his right.

I guess we try to put each other first but don't always accept the offer iyswim.

My DH works long shifts in a hard job so when we do have time together we try to spend it doing something we both enjoy, more baby centred now our DD is here :) We always split the housework etc half half while to other looks after the baby. He never expects housework etc to be done while he's working as he seeings looking after my DD as my 'job' while he's working. The housework gets done when he's off.

It's hard to put into words. I've been in a few abusive relationships in my past, its just different, more thoughtful, treat each other like we care I guess.