Does anyone else worry all the time that other people don't like them?

[dinosaure]

I know this sounds a bit silly, but I've found myself increasingly paranoid recently that people just don't like me, laugh at me behind my back, find me thick and stupid etc etc etc. I do remember that I used to feel like this at school a lot, then I discovered smoking and drinking which were massive confidencen boosters.

Is it just me? Or does anyone else ever feel like this?

Dino, me too -especially at the moment.

I run my own company and need to appear very confident, but over the last 2 years my confidence has pretty much disappeared and I seem to be having an identity crisis.

I thought I'd get more sure of myself as I got older, but I seem to be working in reverse. I suppose it's to do with some chickens coming home to roost for me - connected to my childhood too.

Hope you find something that makes you feel better

If you do go for counselling, any chance you could come on here and tell how effective you found this?

I couldn't care less whether people like me not not TBH.

I talk to anyone, I'm not shy about making the first move to strike up a conversation in new places with new people.

If someone doesn't like me then thats their problem, I know I'm a nice person(most of the time) so it's tough luck on them for not liking me.

Maybe that sounds big headed.....

On the other hand I haven't got huge amounts of close friends, I have a few people who I can chat too for hours about about absolute rubbish or my most intmate secrets but the closest is 60+ miles way since we moved.
I don't feel like I need lots of friends, I'm happy with me and in my own company but am also happy in a group.

I have to just say I never in a million years expected your name to be the OP on this thread Dino. I like you, I always read your posts and feel like i have a connection with you because of our exclusive membership to the 3 boys gangs

See, dino! We all think very highly of you. You have no reason to feel paranoid.
xx

I can understand how you feel dino. Often feel like it as dd's school as feel judged by them about dd and her behaviour, which according to the school is my paranoia.
I am a very anxious person and worry about the silliest things.
Do you think you could maybe be feeling a bit anxious at the moment?
I have to say although I only met you once I really enjoyed your company and it was a pleasure to have met you. I cannot think of any reason why people would dislike you as you are so likable.
Bloss xxxxxx

been thinking about this thread and my post and I've realised that I do sometimes get paranoid that someone doesn't like me.

But....

If soemone doesn't like me there is nothing I can do about it because I know I'm a nice person so I just package the paranoia up and store it under "other stuff" in my head.

You're lovely on here Dino so I'm sure in RL you're even lovelier.

Very that this is you Dino, you're on my mners I'd like to meet list. And FIT - always read and like your posts because you're son is teh same age as my youngest. And am very of both of you because you're both very clever like, feel a dumb-ass underachiever next to you both.

Ah tinks- you are v wise too, you know.

Actually some of the mumsnetters I love and respect most are on this thread. I can personally testify that marina is a joy to binge drink with, for example. The other arch mummies are missing out bigtime.

Awww thanks everyone for these fab posts. We're just in the midst of the bedtime hurly-burly atm, but I've been thinking a lot about this and will post a longer post on Monday.

Meantime, thanks again - your support really does mean the world to me - watery

Dino, I definitely do sometimes feel like that. I then worry that I waste so much time worrying what people think of me, or will think of me, before i go somewhere.

My dh is the total opposite and it seems to make his life so much simpler, with out paranoias and being anxious over little things. The fact that he's like that makes him a;ways seem comfortable with all different people who then warm to him. But i think we are all just different. I do wonder whether it is more of a woman thing though.

Reading this thread there is some really good advice. I hope you are feeling better. It sounds like you have lots of people on here who think very highly of you

This thread is a Godsend. Been feeling like i'm always the last thought about person, that no one really likes me, that they think that I am disorganised, untidy person in the whole world. I wish I could get rid of the negativity in my head that is constantly there. Have often thought that may gognitive therapy would help but not a clue how to go about it. I feel so insecure and if i take the children anwhere alwasy thinking that mine are the least well behaved and that is what everyone else is thinking the same.

Have always thought it would get better with age but am now 34 so maybe i going to be a negative, screwed up person forever.

Btw sorry for the waffle

longwaytogo btw are you still up for a meet?

spacecadet yes, yes yes where and when?

did you get my email yesterdat spacecadet?

hi..i sent you an email with the details yesterday..did you not get it..let me know and ill resend it

x-posts! yep got your email and replied..but im guessing you didnt get yours back

yes sorry jsut found and replied.

excellent

anniemac - AWWW thank you. i still feel like very much the newbie in town so its nice you think im popular...dont feel ti sometimes...i seem to be arguing most of the time lol