DH, DD and I recently moved across country (about 4 hours away from both sets of family) and we expected both sides of the family to be upset and miss us, especially as it's only been just over a month so far, but PILS seem to be taking it far too far.
My parents have been thinking about selling their house and moving for some years now because it's too big for them now 'the kids' have moved out but they never had the 'oomph' to pick somewhere and do it because we were all living locally and they didn't know anyone anywhere so would have just had to pick somewhere to move to 'blind'. While we were planning to move they came with us to look at areas (helping with the travel costs) and fell in love with a town about 15 miles from where we were planning to move. So we moved, which IMO gave them the kick to move too, especially as I'm the dc they're closest to (not playing favourites, just the one who stays in touch most) and dd is the only gc, so it made total sense to them to be near us while getting to move to a nice place and a smaller house. Plus they've been worried about not being able to help us dc's out financially (we all lived in an expensive area and had no chance of getting a house deposit and they really wanted to be able to provide one) - selling their house and moving to the town near us would release enough money to give all dc's a small lump sum.
So my DP's moving made sense and was fine by us. They were going to leave it a few months after we moved but getting a bit excited to find out the house value had a valuation a fortnight after we moved. Then things moved unexpectedly fast - they found an agent they really liked who put it up for sale really quickly and yesterday someone came to look at it and offered the asking price there and then (think the asking price was a little low and that's why it was snapped up but I'm no estate agent and DP's are happy so no matter). The buyers need to move by end of November so it's all very sudden.
Naturally we told PIL's and expected a little upset that it might remind them even more that they've 'lost us' (their words) but IMO they've been really vile about it but DH thinks they're just venting and we should let it blow over. Can see it blowing over with PIL's but I can't forget what they've said already and think they're trying to control DH by throwing temper tantrums and I don't see why we should put up with it or forget about it.
Don't want to say word for word in case it outs me but basically the PILs have accused my DP's of engineering this move so they can follow us because they're horrible control freaks who won't let us live our own lives (we've not complained about DP's being controlling, we're happy about them moving up and we moved away for job reasons - we would have taken all the family with us if we could, we weren't trying to escape from anyone). PILs won't hear of us being happy about it though we're 'just being nice' and apparently we won't be able to live our own lives with DP's there because they control us!!! PIL's have said my parents are trying to take DH and us away from them and we're 'naive' if we can't see it.
PILs are adamant that they're right and that my parents are control freaks and have some horrible masterplan to ruin their lives and ours (my parents have their faults but are lovely people!) and are spouting off at DH, getting themselves distraught and worrying DH (because they have anxiety issues and can have attacks). DH basically wants to indulge them so that they're not upset and then in a few days they'll calm down, I'd rather give them 'what for' with both barrels and tell them it's not on to accuse my parents of this sort of bollocks and give these temper/sobbing tantrums short shrift. Don't know if I'm being unreasonable though or we should be stopping this behaviour, as it's pretty controlling in itself! I appreciate how upset they still are that they've 'lost their baby boy' but there are limits!
Sorry, long!!!