DHs possible unknown child

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What a shitty mess.

Turns out that DH is possibly the father of a child from his last relationship. I am all over the place right now and I can't really order my thoughts.

Me and Dh met Feb 2008 this relationship ended Nov/Dec 2007. The ex was, according to her 2 months pregnant when they split however she didn't know she was pregnant until about 6 weeks after they split.

She never told DH until now, He doubts he is the father as the relationship was not exclusive on her part plus he says he used protection. He thinks she has only come now since a relationship break up/money (which he should rightly pay if child is his).

I feel like the bottom has fallen out my world. DH has a lot of anger towards the ex and is adamant the child is not his, he doesn't really want to engage in any conversation with the ex (or anyone, including me) about it. the ex is saying the child is his for sure as it looks like him but doesn't really want to discuss DNA testing and says her word should be taken as the truth.

Good grief

She keeps this information to herself for 5 years, denies the child his real father (according to her) Denies the father Access or knowledge of a child, his child (according to her)

How unbelieveably unfair on your DH, you, your child and the decisions your DH and you have made to date in your lives.

Damn right she agrees to a DNA test and damn right to question why she has denied this child access to HIS father for all this time - disgusting behaviour and NOT on the part of your DH. OR in the interests of the child.

As for suggestion of herbal tea - sorry, but LOL.
Brandy all the way, you sound like you are coping admirably, as is your DH.

It is one of those rare situations where a mans human rights are compromised by a woman, she has behaved so badly and with bad intent, no matter what the outcome and anyone that says differently is not seeing this clearly.

Also, just to add - of course she would agree to a DNA test if she was in any way a logical and fair person. She has proved, over the last five years, that she is not.

I wish you and your family well OP, I really do.

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