Have I met the perfect man?

[Mosschops30]

I mean I've never met anyone like him, I'm just waiting for there to be something awful! Are there perfect men out there?

[Mosschops30]

mexican it will come and get you when you least expect it! i certainly didnt expect this

[katehastried]

Mine was similar MC. Although I think sometimes women don't appreciate 'nice' boys and want something more 'exciting' (=bastards).

I might be over-thinking it though...

[internationallove985]

Hi Mosschops30. Before I say this please believe me I mean you no hurt or upset and if what I say causes you upset then it is completely unintentional as it is not in my nature to bring hurt to others and also no I'm not jealous in any way shape or form. Romance does not not interest me one iota. It never has and it never will do. I'm only interested in sex. The arrangement I've got suits me just fine. Also the right one for me is not out there. You'd never get anyone to match me..... Well here goes....
I'm very pleased that you have found someone you're happy with and after a bad marriage I'm not begruging you of course I'm not. However that said a women doesn't have to go through a bad marriage to be to find their fairy tale romance. However please do try not to be do I dare say too smug (sorry I can't think of a alternate word) as the fates don't like it.
I really do wish you well and like I said at the start my comment means you no upset at all. xxx

[Mosschops30]

international i am not smug at all, in fact i said down thread that im just waiting for it to go tits up and wonder why its all so good.

I posted this thread because ive been here a long time, had a lot of support and know that MN will tell me how it is if im seeing things through rose tinted specs. I wasnt trying to be smug and apologise if i gave that impression

[internationallove985]

There's no apology needed mosschops. You're happy and you deserve it. I also apologise if I came across as bitch. xx

[SilverSixpence]

Internationallove don't think she is being smug, she is just happy! Is that not allowed?

[waltzingmathilda]

If he's that perfect, why is his wife an ex?

[waltzingmathilda]

oops see you covered that - strike my last post

[SpottyDottie]

My DH is the perfect man! Love him TO BITS! He treats me like a queen.

[Heartbrokenmum73]

the fates don't like it

[internationallove985]

Silversixpence Please read my post in more detail. Where exactly did I say O.P is not allowed to be happy? Absolutly nowhere. Now that's all I have to say. x

[Mosschops30]

Aah spotty so there are some out there.

I used to read some of the lovely threads when I was married about dhs that would run baths or whip the Hoover round or do other nice things and was so envious.
Those of you who have these wonderful men are so so lucky

[PeppermintPasty]

Good on you op. Remember though, if you have found the perfect man, it's probably because you're rather fabulous yourself. Stop waiting for it to go tits up and enjoy it me dear.

[curlew]

OP- a word of advice? Stop being so grateful- he's not doing you a favour, you know!

It sounds a lovely relationship- but make sure it'a a equal one. If you think of yourself as "lucky" that he likes you, it's easy to put yourself in a "little wifey" role and no decent man wants that. Remember he chose you because you're fab, not just because he is!

[Beckamaw]

Feck, let me pile in too!
I'm 3 years in with the perfect man (for me). Another one from school, 20 yrs plus.
We actually had to attend Relate in the early stages because I was fiercely possessive of doing everything for myself. I had to spend a good few weeks acknowledging boundary issues. Good news is, it worked.
It's hard to shake the 'too good to be true-ness' though, after years of bullshit relationships.

You deserve from him, and here are some from me too!

[Mosschops30]

Wow whats with us all finding these old school friends thats 3 of us on this thread alone.

Im certainly not in the little wifey role. I came from a marriage where i was expected to be that, but to also do everything and hold down a full time job and course so im not going there.
He thinks im like superwoman

thanks for the

[somanyfake]

Pinky pink

[curlew]

I didn't mean a little wifey in practical terms, sorry. I didn't express myself well. It just sound a bit as if you feel you don't deserve him. And that's not a good mind set to get into.

[LemonDrizzled]

Another one here with a lovely man with all the virtues you spotted in your man moss. I still can't believe I have found such a kindred spirit who gets me totally (and talks too much when nervous like I do)

After two years I can understand why his wife left for someone else though. He is obsessed by his hobby which dominates his spare time and is a clutterer and hoarder. You will no doubt find your lovely man's Achilles heel in due course. But meanwhile enjoy!

[Mosschops30]

Haha yes I'm sure he has many annoying things I'm not yet aware of.

curlew yes I know what you mean, don't be super grateful that he's so great with me and likes me. I don't think I am because I wasn't looking for this and whilst it's lovely I am we'll able to take care of myself and he knows and respects that