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Have I met the perfect man?

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Mosschops30 · 17/08/2013 22:46

I mean I've never met anyone like him, I'm just waiting for there to be something awful! Are there perfect men out there?

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internationallove985 · 17/08/2013 23:29

It's not the size of the ship it's motion on the ocean or to put it another way as long as they know how to use their equipment then that's all that matters rather than size.
Also I take a guess that L.T.B means leave the bloke. xxx

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Mosschops30 · 17/08/2013 23:30

Ooh you're all making me feel even better Grin

We knew each other at school, didn't speak or see each other for 20 years, friend on FB about 6 months before me and h split. We met randomly at a party, organised through FB and it went from there

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blueshoes · 17/08/2013 23:33

That's a keeper Smile

curlew · 17/08/2013 23:35

How is he about you going out with your friends? What would he say if you put him off for a friend?

beaglesaresweet · 17/08/2013 23:36

'leave the bloke' Grin, you re so polite, intern!

Amazing coincidences then, Op - FB after years of no contact, and then party right at the time of your split! luck was definitely on your side, probably well overdue - hope he's the one, OP Smile.

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Mosschops30 · 17/08/2013 23:39

Well the party was a few months after the split, I certainly wasn't looking for anything, still not sure what I'm doing about it, just going with the flow Smile

I'm not sure about the friends thing, it's not an issue and I've never asked, if I want to see friends I do, same for him, we're not joined at the hip

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BMW6 · 17/08/2013 23:49

I hope he is as perfect as you believe!
But if he isn't do bear in mind that everyone has something that is their own Achilles Heel.......and nobody is perfect!

(Sorry to rain on your parade, but I am 55 and have seen A LOT OF STUFF......) Smile

beaglesaresweet · 17/08/2013 23:53

yes Moss, I dodn't mean right on the day of split, but look on MN htreads - women wait YEARS to meet anyone new and decent after divorce, so a couple of months is pretty immediate! maybe good karma in your case Grin, just take it slowly as you are doing. You sound sensible, no teenage crush type feelings, so it should go well.

SaltySeaBird · 17/08/2013 23:56

They do exist, I've got one too!

Okay in an ideal world I'd pop another number on his salary, but he is careful with money, has no debt and is generous with regular flowers and gifts (surprise bottle of my fav perfume today because he noticed I was running out and saved money by not drinking and volunteering to drive when out with mates on Friday in order to buy it for me).

Don't let the cynics tell you otherwise!

katehastried · 17/08/2013 23:56

I met a lOvely bloke like this too

I do think it's probably the shock of a normal relationship after a crap one too

He holds my hand and holds doors for me and brings me gifts and runs me baths

He acts Like he really LIKES me

It probably shouldn't be a shock....

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Mosschops30 · 18/08/2013 00:02

salty that's so lovely Smile

kate yes I get that feeling too, someone who likes me and acts that way and isn't afraid to show it. It's sad that after years of feeling unloved and undervalued that I think this is so amazing, he just thinks this is normal but to me it's amazing

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Troubledjo · 18/08/2013 00:14

How weird - I also met the perfect man recently and just like you he is someone I knew from school and hadn't seen for over 20 years. Mind you, I had to wait a long time for him to come along and had been single for a loooooong time beforehand. He's as near perfect (for me) as he could be. And I am also trying to stop myself from assuming that something will go wrong...

FloraSpreadableMacDonald · 18/08/2013 00:19

OP, does have an available brother? Or even father? Im not fussy!

TwoStepsBeyond · 18/08/2013 00:19

He sounds lovely, lucky you! There's no such thing as a perfect man (or woman) as we're all human, but if he's perfect for you that's as good as it gets! Enjoy.

FloraSpreadableMacDonald · 18/08/2013 00:19

he

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Mosschops30 · 18/08/2013 00:25

Lol no his brother is happily married to a gorgeous girl.
His father is also still married to his mum, he is minted!!!!

However my new man is very normal earns less than my ex but lives within his means and appears to be fairly sensible with money but not tight

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Mosschops30 · 18/08/2013 00:27

And thank you Smile he is lovely! I don't know why he wants me!!
Im not uses to such loveliness just waiting for it to go tits up

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Alwaysreadingonthetrain · 18/08/2013 11:33

Has he told you how his marriage went wrong, OP?

MadBusLady · 18/08/2013 12:02

LTB! We want him Grin

Himoutdoors · 18/08/2013 12:28

Enjoy it but don't expect him or anyone else to be perfect though.

MexicanHat · 18/08/2013 12:42

Yay Mosschops your thread has given me hope!! And don't put yourself down, he's lucky to have you too!! Enjoy Smile

ChimeForChange · 18/08/2013 12:47

Can we share?

Lackedpunchesforever · 18/08/2013 13:01

Awwwww I luffs a luff story Grin

Enjoy !

flatbellyfella · 18/08/2013 13:15

Your description of him, sounds like me. Smile He probably would not like to know that the whole Internet is now wise to him. >>>>>>>goes back to making lunch..... Best wishes for the two of you.

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Mosschops30 · 18/08/2013 19:07

always he did tell me what went wrong, she was having an affair but he was honest and said that he let things slip, didnt tell her he loved her, give her the attention she needed, he said he was devastated but takes some responsibility and will never make the same mistake again
However hes never once said anything awful about her, and i really respect him for that. He said he loved her very much for all those years but just became a bit of a twat and stopped showing it.

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