Female orgasm during sex??

[Seb101]

Hi all,
I'm in a long term relationship, have a fantastic sex life, but have never had an orgasm through penetrative sex!!! Any tips?? Is it even possible??

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Lovingfreedom; he he.... Yeah I can imagine my oh's reaction! Gotta be worth a try just for that!

Neither have I

I did actually mean orgasms during sex, my post was illiterate.

I assume you've looked for your g-spot?

I used to before I had children, now I never get anywhere close during penetration. Things have obviously changed down below!

Just clicked on that youtube link expecting something, ahem, risque.... . And, FFS, it's just a film of a page of text! Deeply disappointing .

How on earth do you learn to "ejaculate"?

What would be the biological purpose of a female ejaculating?

And if there were such a purpose, why would only a few women do it and not all?

The 'g' spot actually runs from your clitoris into the vagina, if you inset a finger up to 1-2 knuckles, hook it towards your belly button (as if you were motioning to someone to come over to you). You should feel a ribbed surface inside of your vagina passage. This is where the 'g' spot (nerves) runs close to the surface, apply pressure and stimulate. Be aware that first few times you may have urge to urinate (and whist you are experimenting you may feel better near a toilet!). Once that urge has passed you should be able to build an orgasm (which for some women can be quite 'gushing'. This will feel very different to a clitorial orgasm. Positions that bring the penis into rhythmic contact with this are should produce an orgasm for the woman.

Get to know your body and you should be able to help your parter too as well.

I was skeptical too but I listened to a Canadian radio show on the subject presented by a feminist lesbian who described the technique she used in some detail. She wasn't at all porny so I thought if give it a go. I'm on the bus atm but will try to find the link again later.

Please be assured that only 30% of women orgasm during vaginal sex I You must orgasm in other ways as you say you have a fantastic sex life.
I'm quite lucky really as I orgasm most times times. I think it's about not being confident in your body and telling your partner what you like. Also as another poster said there's absolutly nothing wrong with touching yourself during sex.
I had one experience of female ejaculation when I was 21 (during a O.N.S) and I've never experienced anything like that since. It was almost as if my orgasm was having an orgasm. Although I couldn't say what he did that no-one else did to make me ejaculate even if my 6 winning lottery numbers depended on it. I remember saying to him "I need a wee" and he said "You don't just let it go", so I did.(Massive smile) It was quite weird as well. and needless to say he was rather pleased with himself
I've never experienced ejaculation since. It'll be ironic if I ejaculate tonight after talking about it on here.

xx

I certainly don't think all women can ejaculate. I've been messing around down there since I was about 10 and I've never ejaculated however the orgasm has come about. Where does it come from exactly. The ones on the internet look like a MASSIVE WEE.

Have you tried sex toys? I use a bullet - barely gets in the way, works every time and using one with a variable speed control means that I can very easily control the timing too. I don't think I would er achieve anything without it because I need the clit stimulation and hand cramps are not sexy.

The Skein gland - behind G-spot, that ridged bit on front wall about 1-2 inches up -swells and fills with fluid the more the spot is stimulated until there is a feeling of wanting to wee, but if you can get past this and go with the sensations then ejaculation may happen. I say may as not easy to do and I suspect most women do not experience this in their lives. I thought it was a porn myth till I experienced it - seeing is believing. The fluid is clear and does not in the least smell like urine.
What has surprised me most about this is not knowing about this till much later in life - almost like a secret kept from females by all around. Strange indeed after so many generations have walked the earth. Science has been slow to catch up but the facts are out there now if you look (without needing to see porn sites as in olden times)

Sorry, Skene's gland, it's even on wikki

Regarding orgasm I would definitely take time to get to know yourself and what works for you and dont be afraid to stimulate yourself during sex in my expetience most men find it a turn on.

As far as ejaculation goes. I have always been wet when I orgasm but with my current partner I really do gush. But it had taken 43 years to do this and Im not sure what is different. The sex is fantastic but the washing is a nightmare!