my back story is very long and complicated.
I could post a link but am exhausted.Some may recognise me.
Partner of many years, father of our 3 young teenish age kids and I have endured a crap relationship for far too long .
We never married partly because I always feared deep down he was workshy ( he is) and I owned my home and business long before we met. .
I dont want to go into all that here. He is a good if grumpy dad.
The relationship is killing my soul. He agreed last month to an amicable separation.
I should have done this YEARS ago
At that point he was in the first job he had had in many years.( been in job 3 months or so)
Then he got the sack.
Now he has NO job . ( this has been part of the problem for years, his reluctance to work )
I have decided I will probably have to remortgage the house to buy him a small house locally so the children can come and go and maintain a relationship with us both. I realise we are very fortunate in being able to do this.it rankles a bit ( he has absolutely taken advantage of me over the years and I should never have let it go on so long )but I see this as for my children as much as him .
but he will have NO income . Looking into benefits etc it seems he will get about £70 a week. Does that sound about right ? I absolutely do not want to be financing him for the forseeable future, far less forever and a day.
I am not looking for legal advice - he won't be making a claim on my assets or pension ( he has no legal right )
How do others do it? I can taste freedom and a new life without his soul sucking negativity