"I fell over"

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Not really sure about this and wanted some outside opinions.

My friend told me she was out for a few drinks, went to the loo, was wearing sky-high heels and bit tipsy (5 margueritas worth of tipsy, plus drinks before leaving house)...missed a step and went sprawling. Resulting in a cut, plus swollen lump on her forehead, black eyes, a split lip, hurt knee and whiplash.

I was amazed that a trip down a step, could do so much damage, and she said it does look bad...so embarrassing etc. But the reason it might be worse than otherwise, was that about a month or so ago, she "walked into a cupboard" - her exact words - so this fall may have opened an 'old wound'.

Does this sound a bit odd to anyone else or is it just me?

Sadly though, there's no point doing anything other than be there - watchful waiting, if you like. Although I used those transparent excuses, the one or two occasions over the long relationship where someone did question a little closer I shut it all down - gave the whole story of how I'd been so clumsy etc. I was never going to leave until I was ready. I had to do it for me, not because someone else was worried about me. My lovely mum knew that and cried with relief when she found out it was over.

Dv is such a sad sad thing.

She may not realize she's used a classic dv cover story. I one described myself as a woman who walks into doors (really bad spatial awareness and actually do) and someone thought I was saying DH had hit me. I know better now but at the time I didn't realize it at the time.

Thanks - I'm keeping a watchful eye out, but meanwhile also appearing to take what she says at face value. Enough people have said that it might all be true to make it not worth challenging.

As you say Title - even IF something is wrong, she is not going to do anything unless she's ready herself, and she's not. I'm just trying to stay friends, keeping everything breezy in case a day comes and she says all is not well. It may never come - it's taken me a while to realise this. I don't feel as close to her as I used to - but it's OK as it actually enables me to not get too involved again. Her life...her choice...

Thanks for all your replies.

You're a really good friend - I thought that on the last thread too.

You say she missed a step and went sprawling. Resulting in a cut, plus swollen lump on her forehead, black eyes, a split lip, hurt knee and whiplash.

I fell over something when I was in a bar and went flying. I banged my temple and fractured it and got a pair of black eyes. I could see how someone could hurt their knee if that happened.

What I can't understand is the split lip at the same time. The black eyes occur when you bang your head but to bang your head you can't really bang your lip at the same time, can you? If you fell on your mouth you wouldn't bang your head.

Also, whiplash? I've had that in a car accident. You have to have moved forward and backwards really really fast.

I don't think all those together tie in.

What is her boyfriend like with her?

Do you have friends in common who were out with her when she said it happened? What about Facebook? Did she put it on there?