Should I start seeing first love again ?

[mamas12]

Just as it says
I have been single for 7 years He is newly single after an on/off relationship of 6 years
I know the saying 'never go back' and I agree, I know he a flakey kind of person as in he is easily led, anything for an easy life sort.
I don't think it will last and may not end well due to history BUT
I am lonely, I would love to have some attention/affection in my life
Is that good enough reason to be reckless?

We were together between about 17 and 20, then didn't have any contact at all for about 4 years, then just the very occasional meet for a further 2. We both saw a few other people in between. Back together at about 26, married at 30!

mamas this is soooo exciting. Hope it works out. It certainly all sounds very good. You are being mighty sensible about it too. Way to go you. Waiting for the next instalment...

Supposed to be meeting mine tomorrow or Wednesday... will see if he cries off again.

Omg dawny can't believe he's crying off again for you
Chigly the gap for us is much longer, over 20 years!
I'm finding it confusing as in I'm really not used to someone being nice to me and have forgotten how to take compliments etc consequently he has asked if I'm playing games.
Just had to explain that no I'm out i
Of practice with regard to male female interaction
Hmmmm it can get so fraught can't it

Good luck to all!!

Thanks I have just posted a letter to him but if course panicking now don't know how he'll take it will have to wait and see wont I !

I'm sure he will love your letter. And I'm sure he is feeling all those things you are feeling and loving the attention!

No word yet on my meet up tomorrow or Wednesday - looking exceedingly dodgy. I have a hunch that he hasn't actually split with his girlfriend as he said he has. I will be telling him. In no uncertain terms.

Dawny have you heard from him?

Hi mamas. Sorry for delay. He's currently having counselling for stress and so appears he is 'unable to give anything at the minute'. I've tried to support him, but he doesn't even thank me or ask how I am in return and it's ended up being totally one sided so I have said to leave it for now but get back in touch when things are better. I may sound a bit off here, but he's always been a lot like this. Will see...

How goes it with you though??? Hope it's gathering some romantic momentum. Do give us an update.

Very sorry to hear about yours not sounding too solid does it what a shame

Well I have actually just come in from another very lovely date. He is so tactile and demonstrative and we were all over each other in the corner of the pub we were in - all the youngsters there probably thought it was disgusting but we didn't care!
We might be taking things further this weekend but I'm very nervous as hasn't dtd for a loooooiing time!
I don't know whats happened between us whether its chemistry, unfinished business or just an itch we need to scratch but we are both definitely on board for an adventure!

The only thing is I'm not sure how my son is feeling about it

Yay! That all sounds amazing and I'm sure you will be fine when it comes down to dtd. I always think try not to make too big a deal about it and I'm sure it will feel very natural - you're obviously both very attracted to each other. Go for it girl.

As far as your son is concerned. Have you talked to him. This kind of thing is never going to be easy, especially if he's at an impressionable age (at least mine is only 22 months!) He will come round though, it's just going to disrupt the status quo initially - but you can't stay single forever. Good luck!

I will let you know if there are any further developments this end... at the moment, I'm still lusting after the postman. Asked him his name the other day. I think he may be unsuitably young. Hard to tell as he's quite weather beaten after this summer...

Hello all well ahem yes I have actually dtd after soooo many years!
Only now starting to walk properly as overused muscles I hadn't used for those long years.
Wow, we didn't let go of each other for about eighteen hours! Only slept for three. I can't get over how intimate we've become in a short space of time. Not bad for our ages eh!
He has also sent me a great proper love letter I'm feeling very spoilt (if a little sore)
You are right all who said go for it as at the moment it's good

Btw dawny go flirt with postie

Mamas that so great. Well done you! It sounds like you were made for each other. Hope it continues to go swimmingly. Enjoy every minute!! You deserve it. Xx

I have been flirting with the postman ... but, in the meantime, it might ge back on for a meet up with first love. Ye says definitely in next two weeks. I am giving him another chance due to stressful job circumstaces so watch this space...

Ooh that does sound promising hopefully you will get to meet and see what's what then
I can't believe how it's
become so intimate in such a short time it's quite lovely nd I have decide that life is too short r analyse too much and just go for some fun for myself and to enjoy his compliments

Mamas, that does sound lovely. It must help that it feels right, but I know exactly what you mean about not over analysing and life being too short. Oooh, lovely happy vibes!

How did I miss this thread! This is lovely OP :-)

I think I'm finally coming around to the fact that it is Lovely xollop and I deserve it as the say haha
We now speak every day and we talk and talk
But the fly in the ointment is his sister/my best has told me she doesn't want to know anything about it which on the one hand I can see she's scared she's in the middle and will probably have to support one upset person if it doesn't work
But in the other hand I feel I can't talk to my friend about my lovely weekends I'm having. Obviously not going inj to detail just saying we went to so and so and had a lovely time -she doesn't want to know!!!

mamas - I have just read your latest post and have had a conversation today with my Mum who is also concerned in case it doesn't work out with my situation. People getting hurt and caught up in it etc.

I was totally honest and said I absolutely had to do this - at least try anyway. I could not bear going through the rest of my life always wondering about the man I always loved that never happened...

Good Luck!!!

Dawny
Yes I know that feeling. I was encouraged by posters here saying you have to at least meet him the once to satisfy that feeling
If he's a dud then so be it
But
If I hadn't agreed to go and see my first love because of my friends issues and other what ifs I wouldn't be enjoying the affection we are giving each other ATM
I am living with other what ifs but there is always going to be those aren't the
Good luck and let me know how it went

Well dawny I hope you've actually met now and it went well
We now speak practically every day and are seeing each other every Saturday night
I still can't believe that we are both familiar and yet still discovering things about each other, it's a unique situation I think and we're both enjoying it
His sister/my friend is not so thrilled still I'm afraid which is sad but time will help that I hope

That sounds brilliant Mamas. Hope the friend situation turns around. I'm sure it will when she sees that it was meant to be.

We finally got a date sorted - it's today. He's due to arrive in the next half hour so I will post tomorrow with an update...

Hope it's going well !

Soooo... he has just gone home. We talked for ages last night. Never particularly made any plans as such but talked through our situations etc. We agreed we both felt very comfortable and relaxed with each other. It all felt very natural. We have so much in common that we already knew, and found a few new things.

He is a bit of a 'fly by the seat of his pants' guy, so we will see how that goes (it's likely to drive me a bit mad) but we have both agreed that depending what happens, we may both have to compromise somewhere down the line.

It was actually nice not to talk too much about the future. It felt better not having that pressure. There's no expectations, we will just see where it goes.

He has just rang me to say it was lovely to see me and he will come back up in 2/3 weeks so it looks like it may be the start of something...

EEk!!

O M G
Hmm sounds familiar!
I'm so glad it's turned around for you
The start of something is so exciting isn't it, and what a weird thing it is to be familiar with someone and yet still discovering all about them at the same time
We are now trying to plan more than one night together now and it looks like it could be at half term.