Don't ask why I'm still here as its a very new development. I have two kids, both boys aged 12 and 14. My eldest is well behaved and mostly well mannered, holds down a paper round, good grades at school, never in any bother. Couldn't ask for much more really. My youngest is highly strung with behavioural problems and ADHD. A handful by my own admission.
Dp also has two boys. A 17 year old well mannered, polite and quiet 17 year old and an autistic but lovely 16 year old. No kids are without faults however and his eldest can be stroppy, self centred and ignorent and the youngest, because of his disability requires a lot of looking after when he's here. Not that I mind.
Anyway dp was always worried that my youngest would scare his sensible , sensitive little souls to death and make them not want to visit. This didn't happen, in fact dss2 and his youngest became best buddies overnight. Despite the age different, they get on great. So I assume everything is going well - until of course, 4 weeks in and dp announces that my ds loves to rub it in that he has their dad full time and he has upset dss2. I ask how. He replied "he asked me to play Xbox with him in front of dss". Ridiculous! I can guarantee ds did not do that maliciously he just enjoys playing with dp! Hardly crime of the century.
This weekend he took his two and my ds to cinema. He came back saying dss had spoilt it for everyone. I thought "oh god, what has he done??" Turns out he'd just been getting involved in conversation and pushing his voice across a bit. He does this ALL the time. The lad has special needs - he doesn't think "hmm this will make them not want to come anymore!" He then goes on to say "but doesnt he understand?? they're MY boys!!" I told dp he was being ridiculous and making something out of nothing. Since then he has called ds2 a "tosser" for being cheeky to me (and slagged him off to dss2) and my ds1 a "dickhead" for accidentally shutting a door too hard despite knowing that he's dyspraxic.
I couldn't even picture the nuclear fallout if I called one of his lads a tosser or dickhead. Wtf is his problem all of a sudden? Other times he's great with them. Makes them milkshakes, helps with homework, Thales them out etc but every now and again the horrible venom seeps through. I feel like punching him.