Finally hit me what he did...

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Long story - summary is:

Ex and I separated in Feb 2012 ago but lived "separately" in the same house until 2 months ago.

had last counselling session together in oct 2011 - one of main issues was ex telling lies. he committed as part of that to tell the truth.

In jan 2012 I discovered he'd be lying for months about something big - job related (he had a disciplinary warning for his conduct). For me it was then over as it made a total mockery of the counselling, his "commitments" to change etc.
I was so upset I couldn't speak to him about what i' found out - so I wrote it down and sat with him while he read it. He barely reacted. " weeks later I told I wanted a divorce.
Then I started to see him attaching "shopping lists" to the note I gave him, for things like moisturiser, lockable bag, tops etc.
Tuned out he was cross dressing. over the rest of the 1.5 years we lived togtehr (separately) he continiued to do so, also stole my clothes, make u and jewellery. he bought wigs in my hairstyle and bought underwar identical to mine. He also left blood stained ladies underwear in the laundry and took pictures of himself naked in public. Also left oil on the kitchen floor (tiled floor so very slippery), left dirty pans out for days on end, the list goes on. There is more, but this is a general outline

I finally went to the counsellor I saw 2 years ago, and she said that it was clear he was doing all this to get at me, as my "punishment" for me discovering his lies about work. She said he must have felt humiliated so was trying to do the same to me.

I knew this all along really but its finally hit home just what a nasty, warped person he was. I know I've had a lucky escape but as I now know during the 1.5 years it went on, I shut don emotionally and focussed on getting the divorce sorted out. It's only now, its really hitting me. I even cried for the first time tonight...

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Thanks MN :)

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His behaviour seems to verge on psychopathic - esp in relation to his lack of conscience , mind games, etc - any thoughts?

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Just been reading more stuff about psychopaths - scary....