So I've found Knickers but there his old swimming trunks?! Confused.

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So confused today I noticed my DH filthy work fleece so popped it in the wash like a good little wife. When the washing machine had finished I pulled it out and discovered a pair of red woman's knickers.
On closer inspection they are from H&M and swimwear.

I text DH asking if he had anything to tell me. He was confused so I sent him a photo of the knickers.

His reply
Found what where?
'I have no idea what's in or on my fleece cos it's been in the van for months in shit. Don't imagine it's got women's knickers or lipstick in it, certainly don't think it smells of perfume, and there's no way there's a receipt for a whorehouse or condoms in there, so don't know what you've found'

After I sent the photo he replied:

'Can't see the picture good, but if they've got a little metal badge on the back that says HOM they were a pair of trunks I've had for years. No idea how they got there cos they were in the boxes in the dining room.'

Now they are swim wear but most certainly woman's and I've never know him to wear swimming trunks ever!
He seems genuinely surprised and not at all worried that he might have been caught out about something.

I just want the truth. Our marriage has been through a lot over the last year I lost our DC in pregancy and can't seem to get pregant again.
I could understand an indiscretion but I need him to be honest.
On the other hand I have no reason to suspect anything but I feel naive for believing him.

I need some advice am I being OTT? Unfair?

He now busy with work so I have to wait till tonight to speak to him.

lady yes. Bit they had a very complex relationship and my DH is so not the type to bow to convention, he's autistic so just doesn't get that sort of thing.
They met a few times until it got bitter. The only time I had an issue with it was the last time they met when he took her out to dinner at a restaurant we visit often. But in DHs mind they also used to go there for dinner when married and he wanted her in a good mood to sign of on some documents that would allow us to fully cut her out of our lives.

So I've text DH and asked him if they were his pants where do he put his balls when wearing them and did they never fall out when swimming.

think you are both a pair of loons

Where was the fleece before it was in the van?

lady we have spoke about it before and he's mentioned he and the ex used to have a lot of toys. We don't have any.
I think it was partly to do with his ex having a way higher sex drive than DH and him agreeing to toys to make up for it.

lady thank you. I get we aren't conventional but I don't think we are loons quite yet. I was just looking for a bit of support on here since I have no one in RL to talk to about it.

waffly he usually brings it inside or keeps it in the van. but it was unusually filthy today hence it was left at home.

Probably not relevant but my husband and his friends used to buy the female skinny jeans from h and m as they were better than the mens jeans!

I would wait and speak to him face to face now so you can see his reactions

It really doesn't sound very likely to me that these are his swimming trunks..

Have you ever caught him lying about anything before? Not necessarily to you, but to anyone else. If you have what does he do? front stuff out?

nosey no lying he's autistic he is literally incapable of lying. He's a very honest person.

He still thinks they are probably his, has no clue to how they got there. He says they do fit him because lycra is stretchy and balls are squishy.

yes
we so believe you

Is this the royal 'we' Lady?

Cross dressing, was wearing them at work, removed and stashed in pocket before he came home?

I think A picture of the offending item would probably be a good idea for more clarity.

I can't imagine mixing up men's and women's swimwear.

He would know whether they looked worn or not whether they were his or someone else's IYSWIM.

If he's autistic and you say he can't lie, why do you think he is lying now?

As they would not fit his ex, I still go for the theory he thought that it might be nice to try some underwear to try on for a bit of fun and not being even a regular cross dresser. It is certainly the best outcome of all the options. Maybe something to spice things up for you both looking at a positive.

I have some experience of a partner who bought some badly fitting knickers where there was little room for his balls as it turned him on. We incorporated his kink that extended beyond knickers into our relationship.

I hope its a relatively simple explanation.

MrsDV it was the OP who said her DH couldn't lie

whether that's down to his autism or simply being a poor liar!

what does he do for a job- using his can?
Is there any chance he could have picked up these knickers thinking they were something else and thought 'ah these will make a nice duster...' or whatever. Just asking as DH often stops me throwing all sorts away as he wants to use them for ' polishing cloths' or such like for his man toys in the shed.

can? van.

Oh ISWYM
I assumed she was basing that on her experience of him personally, rather than a generalisation based on the fact he has autism. COuld be wrong.

Either way, she believes he cannot lie, so I'm confused!

MrsD I know they can lie but I also know his personality and where he lies on the spectrum. He literally can not lie. I wish he could sometimes it would be nice.
I know there are lots of myths surrounding Austism, I've also worked with many autistic children. In this case my DH is one of the ones who is pretty in capable of lying BUT he's also high functioning enough to get around that too of he was feeling devious.

stealth it was more of a case I was concerned about being niave. I've read enough threads over the years to understand that many women are blindsided by their DH cheating.

Anyway he came home early. He says he bought them many years ago when he was fitter and did a lot of swimming he wasn't keen on them so bough another pair, the HOM ones.
He said he took in an old box of office equipment last week to get rid of some of the boxes in the dinning room and they must have been in the box.
You know I believe him, if he was lying to me a far more logical story would have been invented like they belonging to the other guy.
My DH only secret is that he once preferred camper swim wear.

It's given us a bit of a laugh which has been much need in this household.

Thanks to those that were helpful.