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How do you feel about h/p after 10 yrs or more

46 replies

angelinaj · 05/06/2006 21:35

Not sure myself

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charliecat · 05/06/2006 21:37

11 years, still think hes a sexy bastard, think he takes me for granted and dont know how to rectify that...hmm and since I cant think of the words to describe how I feel about him maybe I am guilty of the same!

Donbean · 05/06/2006 21:42

Oh God, i still love him absolutely as much as i did when i first knew i loved him.
We have been together for 13 years and married for 6 this year.
You cant not love my hubby, he is gorgeous and one of the nicest people i have ever known.

.......however, if he puts a spoon in the knife section of the knife and fork drawer again....i SHALL be stabing him to death......then my period shall arrive and i shall love him again.

blueteddy · 05/06/2006 21:45

Hmmmmm, not sure here either!

hulababy · 05/06/2006 21:47

Been with DH for 16 years, married for almost 8. Still love him loads and we get on well as friends too.

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angelinaj · 05/06/2006 21:47

The bodily function thing really gets me. Burping and farting are supposedly acceptable. Just so in the car!!

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charliecat · 05/06/2006 21:51

No, have had to pull him up about the farting/burping thing. Its that sort of thing that makes me think he takes me for granted. Who the hell else would he even think of stinking out like that???????? NOONE.

charliecat · 05/06/2006 21:52

He does shift his arse out the room 8/10 times nowadays.

rickman · 05/06/2006 21:53

You're right CC, he didn't do it round here! lol Not unless it was when I'd gone out of the room. Your dp is a lovely bloke, ds2 thinks so.

charliecat · 05/06/2006 21:54

All blokes are lovely if you dont have to live with themWink

Mercy · 05/06/2006 21:54

We've been together for 12 years.

Feels like we are friends/brother & sister tbh. In many ways we have become poles apart, in a few ways we are like one person. V hard to describe what I mean

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angelinaj · 05/06/2006 21:54

Not much affection or sex either

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angelinaj · 05/06/2006 22:05

He has been ill recently and just been worse than usual. I am only 27. Feel like i love him still but don't fancy him anymore. Is this normal

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crazydazy · 05/06/2006 22:09

Only been together 7 years but its a hell of a long relationship for me Grin

The only way I can describe it is that he's the only person I can stand spending a lot of time with, everyone else in the world gets on my nerves after a while. He's definitely my best mate but also my sexy lover too.

Oh yes and the fact that he can put up with and live with me the way I am and still love me just makes me feel we suit each other.

saltire · 05/06/2006 22:13

I've been married nearly 13 years, been together 15. I still fancy him like mad, and he makes me feel good about myself, even if i'm having a "fat" day, or my hairs a state, he still tells me i'm sexy!
However there are times when i think he takes me for granted, but he's been away for four months and is due back in 3 weeks, so i'm really happy about that.

apronstrings · 05/06/2006 23:05

angelina - 6 or 7 yeares ago I didn't fancy my hubby at all. I certainly do now

brimfull · 05/06/2006 23:16

been married 19 yrs been together 22...god can't believe that!

If anything I love him more as we've shared more time together,both happy and sad.I'm a firm believer in working hard at a marriage/partnership.There will always be tough times when you can't abide each other but they make the good times better.Soppy I know but true.

harrisey · 06/06/2006 10:53

Dh and I have been together for 16 years, married for 11. We've had our ups and downs but i love him more than 16 years ago because we have been through so much and built a life together for ourselves, its been so worth working at.
We have our differences adn disagreements but that doesn't take away from our love for each other. And the sex is good too!

dinosaure · 06/06/2006 10:56

First got together 20 years ago (although we did split up for almost a year) and married for nearly 12 years).

It can still be very good, but it takes a lot of working at - on both sides.

crazydazy · 06/06/2006 10:59

The key really is communication and not holding grudges. The little things count like a kiss when you come home and sending text messages just to say you love them mean so much I think.

BudaBabe · 06/06/2006 11:01

Together 18 years (scary!) and married for almost 11.

No sex - him not me. Do I love him? Sometimes. In love? No.

He still makes me laugh which is prob the only reason (1) we are still together and (2) I haven't killed him!

But he is in Africa now for almost 2 weeks and just gone off into the wilderness for 6 nights - totally uncontactable - and he sent me a text this am to say he loved me! Am in shock - and now a little worried about this trip and the safetly issue!

geekgrrl · 06/06/2006 11:05

been together 10 years, married 9 - I love him very much, he's my best mate and we really get on well most of the time. :)
We've had rough times but things are really good now, we know each other so well and hopefully things will only get better.
I do fancy him but not in 'I want to rip your clothes off' kind of way we had in the first year. He still fancies me just as much as he did on the first day it seems, which can be a bit irritating at times - all the groping and talk about shagging does get on my nerves occasionally. Sure I'd miss it if he stopped doing it though!Grin

Northerner · 06/06/2006 11:09

Together for 10 years, married for 8 in August.

Love him to death. He makes me laugh, we can talk about anything and everything for hours, and best of all we have fantastic sex!

We are a good team. Of course we have our ups and downs and sometime I could strangle him (and him me) but we would be lost without each other.

Feistybird · 06/06/2006 11:16

Been together 22 years, never married, now wanted to.

He's my best mate and I just know we will end our days together.

But, our relationship was very 'established' before we had kids and it certainly deteriorated after. But we both know it, and we know why and each year it picks up a bit more.

fullmoonfiend · 06/06/2006 11:32

He's changed a little, I've changed a little but still love him loads, and still fancy him loads(married 12 years, together 14)

But wish I could find a rich, elderly and decrepit sugar daddy (for both our benefit...) as I am now middle aged and it's dawning on me we're never gonna be well off! And our life together would be so much happier and longer if we didn't worry about how to afford university for the kids etc etc.