How do you feel about h/p after 10 yrs or more

[angelinaj]

Not sure myself

I think because I got pregnant very early in the relationship (2 months after meeting) DP and I have just matured together really, when we had DD we were still getting to know each other and both were thrown into this parenting thing together and just have learnt from one another over the years.

Now our complaint is that we never had that "couple" time before we had children and sometimes wish we had more time to be a couple and less time being parents but we've got quite a few years to wait yet.

Together 10 years this month, married for 4.

The past year has been the worst I think and if we didn't have children I think we would have thrown in the towel. However we realised that it was hard because of the children iyswim.

We are both aware of the fact that having 2 children in 2 years is plainly insane but there is light at the end of the tunnel.

He is my best friend and we laugh constantly, even when dd2 is doing her upmost to drive us nuts. He tells me I am gorgeous every day and that he loves me loads so I can't complain.

Wouldn't swap him for all the money in the world but if he snores once more and wakes me up........I will queue up at the knife drawer with Donbean.

Together 16 years married 10

Still adore him. We have had plenty of ups and downs but have worked through them all and I couldn't imagine life without him.

I think it helps that we are both planners, we always like having stuff to look forward too and are constantly thinking about moving here or there and doing different things (as you may have noticed from my repeated shall we move to the country threads!) We are serial house movers too.

been together for 14 years married 7

and he's the best thing I could ever wish for, I'm constantly surprised by how fantastic he is

Saltire,your dh has been away four months?? blimey,doing what??

BB,your dh doesn't want to have sex??

I have been with my dh for nearly 17 years and married 8.
Couldn't imagine living with anyone else.

Mind you,he's away most of the time so technically I don't really live with him.
Perhaps this is the secret of our success??

Only married for 9 years (sorry if that doesn't count) but together for 11 years.

Hate his guts.

I shouldn't really be on this thread as DH and I have only been together 8 years, but my 5yr old goddaughter sums it up:

She refers to us together and separately as "ShowOfHandsAndShowOfHands'sDH", all strung together. So, even if I take her out on my own for a day, I am "*And". When I ask her why she calls me that she says that when she tries to thing about either of us on our own, she can't and we get all tangled up together.

So that's me and DH after 8 years, so tangled up it's hard to know where one of us finishes and the other begins.

Ahhh - Showofhands - that's lovely .

9 years together not quite 10 but thoght id post anyway
i have to say not as obsessed with him as iwas 9 years ago but am deeply inlove with him still its way more than physical attraction goes a lot deeper than that

Having just celebrated our 12th anniversary, we are as solid as we were when we walked down the aisle. (when, by the way, he cried, ahhh)

He gets on my nerves alot atm, and we row more than I'd like, and sometimes in front of dd. But mainly because we are moving to Oz and there is alot to do. I even hung up the phone on him ealier....I have alot of respect for him, he has been put thru ALOT by me, but has never held it against me. Also, we had dd when he wasn't really that sure he wanted a child, but you know what? He's sometime a better dad than I am a mum & I have been eternaly broody.

Then he told me that he has brought me tickets to see Guns N Roses tomorrow (I didn't even know they were playing) because I was dissapointed that I won't get to see George Michael in December!

I've been with DH 10 yrs- married for 6 and things are fab. the last 10 yrs have whizzed by (unlike the years spent with my firstH)
We laugh together all the time and I still fancy the arse off him. He is everything to me and although we do argue I can't imagine life without him. The fact that we have both been faithfull during our relationship is something we both agree makes things more special. He can be a right pig at times as can most blikes but even he admits that no one else would put up with him like I do. Hope the next 10 yrs are as good as the last 10

Been married 16 years (I did get married very young) and known him 18 years. I agree with what somebody else said, he is the only person apart from my kids that I can spend a long period of time with who doesnt irritate me. Feel like he is my boyfriend, best friend, husband all rolled into one, think as we have been together for so long (I met him when I was 16) we have grown up with each other.

We have gone through rocky times but have always come out the other end, probably stronger than ever. I love him dearly and just couldnt imagine being with him. There are some things I would like to

moondog, he's in the military, and has been on detachment for the past four months!! Hard at times, but thankfully he's not in Iraq. Really missed him this time

Mine is ex army too but since having dd things have been rough. FIL causes lots off trouble and we row about him more than anything else.
I don't feel i get the backup any more and i have put on a lot of weight since we got married.
Was 8 now 12-14. Not big really but in his eyes not the same either. He is an immaculate father, cannot fault him, lover no complaints either but the quantity is v limited. Sometimes i want to run and sometimes i want to rip his clothes off and well!!!

Feel so confused and unsure at moment, we have been married 8 yrs and together for 10. Apreciate all your comments though no matter how long you have all been together

Just had our 14th wedding anniversary last month. Been together 14 years and five weeks.

Going through a rough patch at the moment. We have a three year old and a seven month old and I think we're in a big transition now. We've never had a very passionate relationship but we're great companions and we laugh a lot. DH drives me absolutely mad sometimes and we've certainly had rough times before but he's kind and loyal and a great father. He works hard for the family and does his bit around the house (most of the time). I can't really complain but sometimes I do wonder if we've both missed our chance for a big romance or does that just happen in the movies?

blimey, I've just realised we've been together 12 years. married for nearly 2 years.

and I think I feel the same as I always did. obviously not like I did for the first few months, but after that. we have the same arguments as we always did anyway.

We've been together for nearly 8 years ( i think but i want to join in anyway.
We have an age gap (i'm 32 now and he's 50). We spilt up once for a good few months and it took me a while to commit. However, i feel that now we are closer than ever before. He is my best frined and we chat about everything. He does irritate me, as i'm sure i do him but i beleive that this is it. We are Partners for life.
i think that the little things that niggle need to be sorted out as those are the things that drive me mad! Things like letting the filter coffee thing drip all the way to the bin, walking straight through the house from the garden with muddy shoes, not scrunchimg the cereal bag closed. I wait till we're getting on really well and then let it all slip
Also the snoring was a massive factor for us so we now have kind of fell into sleeping apart. I miss cuddles and chats then but i have dd2 in at the moment usually so.......
Passion wise i'm not so hot but not too fussed. It's not that important to me tbh. As long as he gives me babies when i so desire

together now for 15 years not managed marriage bit yet.

• takes me for granted? yes
• good dad? fabulous
• grumpy? yes a lot of time
• has faults? yes
• good lover ? fabulous

overall i am very pleased - wonder what he would say.. done the full circle bit ..would say to anyone work at it - its worth it!

I've just posted a request relevant to this thread on the Media/non-member section - FOR BETTER FOR WORSE, researching for a book about marriage/long-term partnerships. I'm sort of qualified as have been married for 44 years, mostly happy. I think tolerance is the secret of success, but of course there's lots more to it than that - enough to fill a book I hope. Do have a look if you might be prepared to help with my research. Hope it's not bad netiquette to mention it here.

Been together for 25 years next month. Dp is hotter than he was as a 16 year old - not sure about myself though!

He is a fab dad to our dd's. Although, I sometimes want to stab him (obviously not literally) I couldn't imagine not living with him.

Don't start me on all the romantic things he has done over the year's. Looking forward to loads more year's with him.