DH constantly angry, is it me?

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We've been married 15 years with 2dc's and when things are good we really get on. The problem is, he gets so angry so easily and I am scared and feel really bad for putting the dc's through it. He isn't violent per se but will shout, swear and break things at the drop of a hat. When anything happens (like a jar falling over) we all look at DH to see how he will respond
In his defence, he works long hours in a new and very pressured job. I was a sahm for many years (joint decision) and my earnings are now much less than his despite retraining (with a lot of support from DH).
Also, I am v disorganised and dont think the same things need doing so DH ends up with a lot on his plate. I have tried to do things but this doesn't work eg he said he hated having to sweep the office floor every day after work, I got home before him so did it, he got home and did it again!
I hate him being angry all the time but don't seem to be able to change anything.
I've lost all perspective so am hoping some of you lovely ladies can give me an idea what to do next.

I grew up in a home like this and it will be massively affecting your children.

I didn't realise it but in my first few relationships I actually was behaving a bit like my dad

I felt sick when I finally woke up and realised, luckily was still young with no dc then.

So full of anger but only at home....

Two years of therapy and now thankfully am far from the person I had turned into.

actually I have spent ten years struggling with it. two was typo.... was talking to kid at same time.

Not thta i am condongin his behaviour.
But, was he always like this?
Dh now refers to me as "Mrs Angry from Purley" - i.e the Steve Wright, Mr Angry from Purley character.

But I never used to be.
Angry.
Then things happened to me: My diabetes became chronic; I was told that my children would be taken away, by SS, by a one-off Gp, who told me that "smacking is illegal", when I went begging for help, and in conversation ,admitted thta I had smacked, eldest ds, once, a year before;
My work told me that they were going to get me to to leave, after 6 yrs, by 'hook or by crook';
I fought school/Gp/ local authourity to get my son diagnosed as AS (Autistic) even though they kept telling me it was " my crap parenting". shall I continue?

These kind of thinhs, taint you, make you angry. And you are not the person, you were before.

Now, I do feel angry. But I never was before.
Is your dh like this? or is it diferent?

Do you smash stuff and frighten your kids Oblomov? If there's a simple accident at home (like a jar falling over), does everyone look at you wondering if you're going to kick off?

Thought not.