BF deserted me for hours at Glastonbury...am I wrong for being pissed off?

[fizzfiend]

this has been bugging me for a while. There were a few of us there but everyone went off to another stage and me and bf stayed at the main stage. He went to the loo and that was it for about 3 hours. We had a meet up point which I went to and waited at for long periods of time but he never showed up saying he thought we would meet in between bands playing. That wasn't the agreement. I was on my own and it was crap.

I was really upset and he got all mad saying he'd tried to find me. He has a past reputation for being a crazy player but says that's all behind him now. My imagination is going mad....am I being stupid and paranoid? Please tell me what your take on this is as I feel like I'm going crazy..he apologised loads. We've been together for almost a year and have a great relationship...until this...thank you.

I think you were daft to wait around for long periods of time. I'd have either gone off and found something to do solo or hook up with the friends that went to the other stage instead. Never been to Glasto... do mobiles not work there?

Incosiderate yes, something more sinister, no idea, sorry, I would move on from this if I was you, he's probably learned his lesson!

phone died of course....I did of course occupy myself but felt pretty lonely. I appreciate your comments though..maybe I was just being a drama queen. It's just something I never would have done...and I'm still wondering why he didn't come to find me....

Were you expecting to be joined at the hip?

not exactly but isn't the point of this to share with friends? Or maybe it's just me? Still didn't have much fun by myself tho...

It's not just you, OP. If you go to an event like that with your boyfriend you don't really expect to be on your own for several hours.

When you say "He has a past reputation for being a crazy player", do you mean drugs? Is that what you suspect him of doing that day?

If it was a newish relationship then I would take that as a reason to split. How very rude of him to fuck off without even saying anything!

I'm sure you'd be fine on your own if that was planned but to leave you waiting for hours while he 'goes to the loo' shows that he doesn't think very highly of you at all.

This just happens at festivals.. a lot. Even with the meetup place agreed it can still be bloody difficult to find people. I'd let it go tbh.

no he knew exactly where to meet...it was easy..he just didn't show up. Thanks broken banana for making me feel not so pissed off about this. He knew I'd be on my own....it's just such a long time....half an hour/hour would be one thing...3 is not good...

Last time I went to a festival we were at the bar, we both went to the loo, and somehow lost each other between the toilet and the bar. I sat there for 2 hours, but coukdnt get signal. Friend said she'd be looking for me for ages and got quite annoyed, but I'd stayed in the same square meter waiting for her, she just didn't see me.

We had phones too, but trying to get signal is almost impossible.

What did he say he'd been doing? Did he bump into people he knew? Easily done.

Seriously three hours?

That is no time at all for losing and finding someone at a festival.

and it not like you don't have entertainment while you wait.

It's not the most dreadful thing ever,but it would have driven me mad with outrage nevertheless, as I would never do that to someone and it just seems so rude. But then I think the same about people who are always late for everything. So it's probably just me being tense and bitter!

Ha, I've just remembered. I lost my friends at the start of Beck at Reading festival, and didn't find them until after Pulp had finished and we'd all gone back to the tent.

Sometimes you get lucky and can find each other, often you can wander for ages and lose friends for an entire day. Its just how it is, sorry (and I'm not some disorganised numpty who can't find her way, btw :) )

Ahh.. I do love wandering around at a festival on my own :)

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for now and just see how things go. It does sound as if he just couldn't be arsed to meet you again but maybe I'm paranoid too!

I would be upset, OP. something similar happened to me in June with my OH, he too nipped off to the loo and then never reappeared. I found him sat with some of his old mates having a catch up. Not sure if he'd forgoten about me or just couldn't be arsed coming back. He doesn't think he did anything wrong.

I think that's totally normal for a festival, it happens.

You felt lonely after just 3 hours? What else is going on here?

I would find this inconsiderate. I'd just expect my other half to wait at the meeting point if that's what was agreed.

Did you stay at the meeting point for a long time or did you wander off pretty quickly? You probably just missed each other. I even get vexed with DH in the supermarket when he says "I'll get the milk, you get the cereal" and I can't find him for like ten minutes because he's wandered off to the pasta sauces right at the other end of Tesco, he goes back to the cereal aisle, but I've gone to the sauce aisle, and so it goes on haha :)

I don't think three hours on her own feeling stressed about not being able to find her DP is that crazy. Yes there is entertainment around but it's not as much fun if you're spending those three hours looking for someone.

Three hours at Glasto is nothing.

But seeing as you're still brooding on it a couple of weeks later your relationship in general isn't that great, is it? Why mention the 'crazy player' past? Do you think he was off shagging someone?

Some people wouldn't want to be left for three hours, whether it's usual for Glasto or not. But I second WhoNicked's question about the brooding.

Sorry fizzfiend bit dense can you please clarify,
He has a past reputation for being a crazy player but says that's all behind him now

Surely if OP hadn't waited at least an hour there was a chance her bf would come back and wonder where the hell she was? Aren't the queues for loos usually long?