Dating thread 58 everyone welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. loo update is mandatory

It was my sole contribution Juliette ! . ( it's too hot for me to actually think - )

Can I jump in as a newbie, had first OD on Wed, went well but weird as first date for 14 ish years (going through divorce at mo!)

Ah well. Its only been 6 months. Shall just enjoy the here and now

Welcome, Coral, and Left. Dating does feel a bit weird. Just going and meeting someone who is, in effect, a complete stranger, is a weird thing to do.

Snape, pic is lovely.

48, what a lovely dilemma to be in.

Weeeeeeeeeeee, Kirsty.

I'm much better, thanks, Nora. Spending a bit of time navel gazing and working out why it affected me so much has done me the world of good. I think mindfulness would say to acknowledge my feelings, and move on, but I do think there is a lesson to be learnt for me. I let my guard down, and went back to old behaviours, and forgot that I was the prize (and, I reckon, virtually the Jules Rimet of prizes, at that).

It's a lovely evening here.

It's all too easy isn't it, to fall back into familiar patterns but I imagine half the battle is in the recognition of it, Flipper

I'm sunburned from my 25 minute walk back from work

And then in the remembering to do something different next time!

Speaking of which, I did something for the first time, yesterday. I rode pillion on a friend's motorbike. He's been offering for a while, as I've never been on a bike, but I've been too scared. It was really good fun, and I would like to do it again, sometime.

I shall be spending as much time in the sun as possible this weekend. Wearing sunscreen, of course.

Glad to hear that Flipper as I've volunteered myself to go on one of Alpha's bikes with him - not something I'd normally do but why not? (Well I can think of a few reasons actually). What do you hold on to?

Ooh Flipper you rascal. (I've been on the Prosecco and St Germain and I think I've just got another message from Personal Chastity Device man )

Naaah, panic over, it was the bloke who thinks that calling me 'super cute' is a winner.

Ha OWW you are about to fall for the oldest trick in the book (at least of a southern European man). Choices are hands hold onto the sea behind you, hands either side of his waist and of course should he choose to go fast or it's cold you'll end up holding very tightly around his waist in a kind of sitting spoon arrangement. He will go fast. He may even take you to his special place, it will be scenic, have a very deep meaning and of course remote .

Haha Juliette I think I will quite happily go along with all that particularly if he takes me to visit to his special place

Indeed, Juliette, I was told that I needed to hold on tighter, so that I didn't get thrown backwards when he accelerated. Otherwise, as you say, there's the back of the seat, but that apparently sits you up straighter, and makes you more likely to get buffeted by the wind, so is not to be recommended...

You can't be a ladette if you're into Kath Kidston, Rose ...

Indeed Rose after you've bought Cath Kidston drinking from the can is compulsory to add a little edge to your day. I find a CK cushion is always appreciated by the locals having a sip in the park.

Our local bench sitters are bang on trend this season - noticed a couple of Cath Kidston totes recently. Beautifully sized to take a couple of bottles of White Lightning and of course so much more practical than brown paper.

Just had a Nosey on POF .. The men in Blackpool are not better or worse than the Glasgow ones ..

Are you all ready for the Pleasure Beach Kirsty?

Ooo, I'd like to go to Blackpool!

So dinner went well. Mr Lovely didn't stay as he has to work early tomorrow. However, the dessert I spent ages making is still sitting in the fridge as we found other things to do...

OWW I am in a b&b drinking wine and eating pretzels .. Perhaps not the best prep for a day on roller coasters ..

title you are welcome to join me!

First date in ....omg can it possibly be 22 years ??tomorrow folks. A bit nervous, but low expectations really so will just enjoy the sunshine and a bit of chat.
Stressing on what to wear, how to do my hair etc.....
Oh god , I think I'm too old for this malarkey!!

Oh an now it's not even tomorrow ...today!

raenbow you are not!! Just go along be yourself and abide by the rules .. Welcome btw x