Ok, so having read enough threads where women hadn't aired their views on strip clubs and then been upset that their partner had been to one I asked DP ages ago about his views, told him mine and thought we were pretty much agreed they were neither of our cups of tea. (I told him I'd purposefully not go on a night out if i knew in advance of a planned visit/would leave beforehand as I disagree with them so much).
He told me of an upcoming stag do that he thought sounded pants and was basically just strip clubs & a pub crawl in another town and said he's not going. Fine so far...I then mentioned something along the lines of 'yeah, sounds a bit dull, plus s'clubs aren't your cup of tea anyway are they'?
He then said what about when his BF gets married/other stag dos come up that he feels he should go to that involve them?
I just can't make myself ok with it. Whether it's male/female strippers. It's not insecurity, it just goes against my grain completely. I can see the appeal for people but i'd find the whole thing depressing & sleazey tbh & couldn't fully respect DP if he went to one.
I know that sounds OTT but it's just so ugh for me and a total turn off if someone finds it a turn on.
What should I say to him that doesn't sound controlling and insecure?
WIBU to just say 'look, you know how I feel about them and if you couldn't manage to leave before it got to the strip club or not go then I just can't be ok with that'?
I thought we were clear on it, which is what's pissed me off. I don't want this to be a deal breaker but it just is 
(In fairness he did say he had a friend that had a lap dance and the whole thing was depressing, he also said he'd never pay for a lap dance, full stop).
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the old 'strip club' issue
theorchardkeeper · 01/07/2013 12:56
Then that is all you can do.
Well done you, and a feministy pat on the back for him 
CRYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYSTAL 
Said it would be a dealbreaker as the repercussions were likely to make it so and a lot of the points I said on here
Feel much better about my ability to judge people's character too tbh...Was a bit 
when that last conversation happened!
He was probably just thoughtless, rather than anything else
You keep him on his toes 
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