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Private detective seeks advice.

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AbigailSpagibail · 28/06/2013 12:33

DP and I often talk on Facebook chat when apart and - I am guessing unbeknownst to him - he has the location tracker on, which means I can see where he is when he messages me. Quite a few friends I chat to have this on; I probably do too. It shows up a little map and is always really specific and accurate.

I'm visiting friends this week, and he's supposed to be working today. I messaged him this morning with a picture of something he'd like, and was surprised when he replied straightaway - he doesn't normally when at work. So I clicked the location map... And he wasn't at work, but in a residential street about six roads from his house (opposite direction from his work/town). I then messaged asking if he was at work figuring there was a simple explanation, but he said yes, he was at work. From his messages I've seen that he stayed there for a while, then progressed across town to outside his work, where he called to say he was on a break and had had a horrible morning dealing with customers.

He has a history of telling little white lies to avoid arguments, and I've been annoyed with his lack of work ethic lately. I suspect he went to visit a friend (though I don't know anyone who lives on that road) but doesn't want to tell me because I'll be annoyed at him going to work late again.

So, wise MNetters, what do I do? Confront (and he'll then turn off the tracker)?

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Bogeyface · 28/06/2013 19:34

Yoni, you would be amazed at the number of FBs that are not private, I was looking for someone to tell them about a renunion and found loads of pages with all their details open. Where they were, who they were with, photos posted when they were on holiday. It would only be the matter of a few minutes on the internet to find out where they live!

Anniegetyourgun · 28/06/2013 23:22

See, I told you Facebook was evil. It's like one of those portraits in old horror films, with the eyes that follow you. It's watching you, and it's giving false reports to your partner.

dontyouwantmebaby · 28/06/2013 23:38

have to add that I'm another one here who agrees the Facebook location settings are pretty unreliable. Have noticed this not just with my own updates but also my friends! I travel a lot between different parts of the country. Last update I did, my friends thought I was nearby when I truly wasn't. I wouldn't hold much store by Facebook locations even if it has miraculously got it right in the past.

twitter location settings always seem to be pretty accurate though!

quietlysuggests · 29/06/2013 00:05

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