When we moved overseas two years ago, i left a high-powered, well-paid jobso we could move for DH's work. It was both our decision for him to change career to one which would allow us to travel. We have both always wanted to live in different places. His job provides for kids schooling, moving costs, living expenses etc.
When we moved I was 7.5 months pregnant with DC3, so didnt really think much about working again for around nine months. I did start taking lessons in local language when DC was 3 months old.
DH was very negative about me going back to work, which kind of threw me. I persevered and found, to my surprise, that my expertise is highly sought after here and I was immediately offered multipe jobs. Pay is terrible, but i love what i do and i have had the opportunity to move into a slightly different field in what i do at a very high level. This is an opportunity i would never get in the UK, and i feel is helping me develop my skills so i am more likely to get a job again when we return to the UK.
I negotiated with the people i work for to have very flexible hours and to be allowed to freelance for other similar groups. They happily agreed this.
DH has been quite unsupportive of all this even though i pick up all the slack when it comes to childcare or children waking in the night etc during the week. If i need to go in to work for a few hours at a weekend, he huffs and puffs about it. I can easily tell work i cant come, but the projects we do are my responsibility and i take pride in making sure they are perfect. Also, Bear in mind, he regularly goes tp meetings iat the weekend, and i happily cover for him without any complaint at all. I am happy to support him.
He always argues that i am paid peanuts. But i love my job.
Recently he has also been making pointed remarks about my weight. I havent lost all my baby weight but i am not overweight, although he inisists that i am and says he is worried he will stop fancying me. I am five foot nine and weigh around 11 stone. This is a good stone more than i would like, but I am rushing around all day and i play tennis once a week, going to up it to twice a week if i can. I am so upset about this.
I dont eat a great deal, although i probably do drink too much white wine.
He, of course, is a goody two shoes who hardly ever drinks and goes to the gym a lot etc. Although he says he us really unhappy with his own weight too.
He is involved with the kids. Drives the elder ones to school and does packed lunches. Plays tennis, cricket,cycling etc with them at weekends. Although he has tonight started saying he is too tired to be left alone with them at weekends. This after me spening the last three weekends plus one week alone with them. He Also does most of the cooking at the weekend' although no cleaning, washing etc.
We have a nanny/housekeeper in the week,but DH regularly rings me at work to say it is unfair that she should be left alone with the three of them for too long, ie I should go home and relieve her.
Who is being unreasonable here?