Hes just collected his clothes.

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So i found out ex had been cheating on me for the past ten months living two seperate lives one with me and dcs and with the ow who had no idea he was with me (although we split up 3 months ago we were still trying to works things out) when i found out i went round to ow and we both confronted him together he lied through his teeth telling her how much he loves her and that i was a twisted bitch who he split up with two years ago if feel so sick.

In a crazy way i feel so much better as i felt as though i was going mad and was getting very depressed as i knew something was going on lots of red flags but no hard evidence but at least its over now he just came and collected his stuff and couldnt even look mecin the face.

Sorry for the rambelling spelling and grammer im tired and am writing with tears streaming dwon my face.

Oh my lovely i am so sorry, what an utter shitbag x

Good riddance to bad rubbish.

I wish it was good riddance forever hes still gotta see the dcs how do you deal with that?

Doorstep handovers.
Keep a diary of important info and pass it between you.

You poor thing, but honestly, wipe away your tears. He's not a fit partner, father or boyfriend. Won't ever be. You've just got rid of the socks and pants of a total knobend.

Sending you hugs, strength and a glass of

Lock the doors tonight and try to get a bit of rest when you can.

Onwards and upwards. You will SO get over this piece of dog crap with shit for brains.

I pity the poor victim woman he's off with next.

Your life however, is going to get much much better.

I hope you took the door keys off him as he left.

Its going to be hard as i said i already feel so much better even though it doea hurt and sorry to drip feed she knew that i was around because of dcs he used to take them round to her house and to the park like some sort of family its discusting how could anyone do that?

You know the funny thing is i took his keys off him a couple of weeks ago because i was getting even more suspitous about his movements as he was coming in all hours of the night now i know he was leaving his girlfriends and coming to me

Poor you. It's a bad time for you now but each day it will get a little better. What a deceitful man. To deny you like that. You really are so better off without him x

It will get better.

The diary idea is a good one.

He took your DC to the park with OW during the affair? And came from his girlfriend to you at night?

Wow, he is scum.

Pity the OW. Whatever he tells her now, he'll just repeat the pattern and dump a load of shit on her one day soon.

Sorry you have been hurt.

However he sounds like a right twonk and tbh him and the ow deserve each other with their low morals - such a basis for a new relationship - lies

dot ow really had no idea were was still together he told her i was in a new relationship and happy and the only reason i believe her is because of the way we confronted him i hid in another room and heard everything he said to her its sickening the lies that came out of his mouth.

I never would have known about dcs going round there if she hadn't of asked me what their names were to confirm i was who i said i was and not just some crazy lady so in a way i do feel a little bit sorry for her.

And she is staying with him?

I don't know she said she cannot be with someone like him but i think she will take him back.

I can sort of understand why you might feel sorry for her - be intesting to see what happens next - whether she wants a relationship with a lying cheating person.

I think you will cope really well with all of this because you are no longer left hanging, you know what an absolute bastard he is, so there's no more 'trying to make it work' - you can move on with your life, not looking back.

Did she believe you?

How old are your kids? Does she have any?

Very intresting he knows he can never come backe here tbh if he had told me the truth i may have forgiven him but as he lied so much and watched me spiral into depression over all of this i couldn't do it but good luck to her if she doe and i think she will.

She didn't belive me at first until i went round there and showed her pics of us and messages to me that were still together u also got him on the phone so she could hear the things he said to me.

Dcs are 2 so wouldn't have said nothing thats why he must have thought it was ok she has no dcs but could have as they wasn't using protection.

Your right its such a relif to know as soon as i found out i smiled the biggest smile because i knew it was over.

I hope she also has more sense than to take him back - but, that's her look out, she's been well warned... but as with a lot of women she will probably convince herself that with her, he will be different

Still, not your problem!!

You are now free from all of the stress, all of the worry, all of the 'trying'... time you plan your future :)

Well, I hope you have a good day today starting to build yourself a new life. You poor thing, what a shock.

Get yourself checked for STIs too

I'm having a nice chilled day with the dcs and am gonna go clinic first thing tomorro i'm dreading it.

Thought i would update on here as i didn't want to start a new thread.

He is now living with the ow i knew she would get with him despite what happend i have had months of up and downs and still often cry myself to sleep as my family is so broken but now we he wants the dcs to stay over at their house and i am finding this all to much to deal with she already has the person i loved so much even though he is a prick it feels as though now she wants my babies i don't know what to do.

Don't think of it as her wanting your babies.

For whatever reason, she is making a go of things with him, he wants to see his children and she is not standing in his way.

I'm in a similar position to you (well, exh now living with the OW and ex wants the children to build a relationship with the OW) and I realise I may find myself as a step-mother one day. I would never want to take the children away from their mother. I would want them to feel as safe and as secure and as comfortable as I could when they were with their dad.

She doesn't want your babies. She wants him.

I'm so sorry though, you sound so desperately sad...

I know in my heart its not her that wants them but thats how it feels like if i let them stay there she will be there putting them to bed cuddling them as i know they will get up and get in bed with them its the whole closeness thing her having my whole family.

I haven't stopped dcs seeing their dad and i never would he was here today i have said he can see them when he wants but i am just not ready for that yet is that being selfish?

yes i am very sad i just cannot seem to get over this its ripped me apart i have tried dating but don't feel as though i can put my heart into it i have never felt this unhappy before i want to forget him and everything thats happend.

More fool her.

Will he look after the kids properly? What did you think of her (other than absolutely fucking stupid of course!)?

I doubt she 'wants' your babies, I'm sure she just accepts they are part of his life and wants to make them welcome. Even if she does 'want' them as part of their 'happy family' routine it doesn't matter - they are, and always will be, your babies.

Try to use the time to do something nice for yourself
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