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oooh i feel ridiculous

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ImNotBloody14 · 21/06/2013 20:21

So silly. I'm a NCing regular. and a real proper grown up, I swear

I fancy someone. But I cant get up the guts to let him know or even to contact him. I've added him on FB (it's taken me months to build up to that) and he accepted. he's liked a few of my posts and a photo. I keep seeing him online (butterflies) and want to make contact but cant think of anything to say that isn't a blatant excuse to get talking to him. AFAIK he's single- well it says so on his FB.

arrgh this is so frustrating. if this was my best friend she would be chatting away to him no problem.

don't know what i'm posting for- just need to get this out of my head.

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WhiteBirdBlueSky · 27/06/2013 09:34

Does he give you the fanny gallops?

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ImNotBloody14 · 27/06/2013 10:57

He does- im now wondering if i give him the penis equivalent? Confused

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widowerbutok · 27/06/2013 11:01

For goodness sake....geeessss..just hold his hand and look in his eyes!!

HerrenaHarridan · 27/06/2013 12:05

Ffs. Op this is the 21st century you know!

He couldnt be anymore clearly interested. When you go out next week, lean in and kids him.

There's two approaches here
One: lean in and kiss him gently in th lips, lean out a bit and check for confirmation (4/10)

Two: look him dead in the eyes, cheeky half smile and step in and grab and kiss (10/10) ducking hot!

WhiteBirdBlueSky · 27/06/2013 14:22

I think dinner out is a good sign. That's a 'proper' date. Plus after the first date is the traditional time for first snog.

How To Get A Man to Kiss You Without It Looking Like That's What You're Doing: (I saw this on breakfast telly in about 1995, so bear with me)lean in slightly. Look into his eyes, look down to his mouth. Back to eyes, then mouth. For the third time, eyes and then mouth. He will kiss you. I have found this to work. Although admittedly I haven't tried it on anyone who doesn't find me attractive. I think we can safely say he finds you attractive or it wouldn't be dinner. Dinner so early on is date not friendship.

deliasmithy · 27/06/2013 16:37

So exciting!

I think this is going well, perhaps he is the careful type and needs overt signals.
Cue ott flirty laughing, try and touch him, be blatant! use alchohol as an excuse to be flirty but don't get mashed because a gentleman wouldn't take advantage of a drunk!
Get that red nail varnish on!

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ImNotBloody14 · 27/06/2013 18:28

Ok, i'll try the eye mouth eye mouth thing next time i see him. I think because both times have been in my house and he's sat on an armchair instead of the sofa beside me we hut havent been close enough to get and meaningful gazing into each others eyes business happening.

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NotAnotherPackedLunch · 27/06/2013 18:34

Can you leave something on the armchair next time so he has to sit on the sofa with you?

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ImNotBloody14 · 27/06/2013 18:48

Well we'll be going out for dinner next time so im going to try the walking right beside him so we're touching and hope it stirs something in him Grin followed by deep eye gazing

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widowerbutok · 27/06/2013 19:48

Whatever you do, make sure he does not read/look at/peruse MN...lol (on the other hand..errrr)

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ImNotBloody14 · 27/06/2013 21:28

Good point! I havent mentioned MN so i dont think he would know to check

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BitOutOfPractice · 28/06/2013 00:54

Get on with the snigging woman!

Gingerandcocoa · 28/06/2013 17:29

This is better than a rom-com!!!!

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ImNotBloody14 · 28/06/2013 17:42

Well hes away all this weekend so there wont be much snigging action to report back to you all til next week at least. Sorry Grin- i know how much you are enjoying this

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HerrenaHarridan · 28/06/2013 23:39

Next week!

Your a fucking tease Grin

Is there still lots of texting going on?

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ImNotBloody14 · 28/06/2013 23:50

Yep still loads of texting, mostly chatting, a bit of flirting.

Im thinking i'll have him up again before our dinner date to watch a very scary movie. Try and get that first snig Wink

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HerrenaHarridan · 29/06/2013 14:09

Good plan! I also second leaving stuff on the chair he normally sits on so his first available seat is the sofa Wink

colourchaos · 29/06/2013 16:52

"Does he give you the fanny gallops?" hahahaha!

As a man reading this, I am shocked but delighted for you lol.
Would love to see the male equivalent of this thread...!

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ImNotBloody14 · 29/06/2013 17:28

What should i set on the chair that he wont feel able to move- hes been up twice and sat in the same chair. Im wondering if hes decided thats his spot? I hope not cause it's mine! Grin

Im wondering why this thread is shocking for a man to read?

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HerrenaHarridan · 29/06/2013 18:00

Your handbag! Most men won't touch a woman's handbag and you've every reason to fiddle.

What is so shocking about Fanny gallops? Wink

HerrenaHarridan · 29/06/2013 19:54

Wait did I read that right... He's there now!

Oh that's is exciting Smile

HerrenaHarridan · 29/06/2013 22:25

Ahem Wink

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ImNotBloody14 · 29/06/2013 22:58

Nope- hes not here tonight- hes away this weekend. But hes going to come up during the week to watch the scary film with me- i told him i cant watch it alone and need him there to hide behind Grin

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Numberlock · 30/06/2013 07:22

As a man reading this, I am shocked but delighted for you lol.

Shocked? Oh dear..

Mixxy · 30/06/2013 07:32

Put folded laundry on the chair he usually sits on. Lots of it.

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