bf left after nearly 5 years by text!!!!!!

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bf left by text said he needed to clear his head! then text saying he left to get the spark back!
Would not see me or speak to me! as he said his head was up his arse, the night before we was talking about kids as we do not have any and he would like them and I thought everything was normal, I understand that we have been arguing over stupid things.(not big arguments)

I never used to see him although we lived together as he works 7 days a week I work 6days a week myself, hence the arguing! he's left me with a mortgage and all the lovely bills that come with it.

I cooked when finishing a long day myself from scratch no microwave meals made he's sandwiches for work everyday without fail, cleaned he's clothes cleaned the house do all the chores on my own shopping etc, I bought him all his clothes an booked 4 holidays to go to get him away from the work life! had to cancel two of them cause he dumped me

The 3rd week he said he didn't know what he wanted anymore!! and mixed message as if he wants to try again but then text messages saying he will always love me(crap) but he wasn't happy but will not give me a reason as to why he's not happy.

he told me to move on cause he doesn't know what he wants but then saying he doesn't want me to move on just wants me happy he's very confusing!!
he said im beautiful,funny the nicest person he knows an he will always love me! an that im he's one! so why has he thrown it all away?

its took me 7 weeks for me to get an answer if he wanted to try again as he was avoiding the question. the answer I got was I don't think so anymore.no!
the week before we split he was saying how he still so happy every time he wakes up next to me and a load of other lovey dovey messages so i am still in a state of shock!! an no body knew he wasn't happy not my family or his so I think he's making excuses! his text messages are very hurtful and confusing.
he said he was deleting my number as he cant look at it anymore cause he gets upset.
I also supported him for 21/2 years as he didn't have a job an no car so I was there for him (think I did too much for him)
nearly 5 years an he didn't sit down to tell me he wasn't happy or tell me it was over its all been done by text message. he's also said f..off stop texting him an making him upset cause I wanted answers

Lucky escape from a cocklodger, by the sound of it. Took me much much longer and finally woke up and ditched him. He's saved you much heartache.

OW
I'm so sorry

Sorry to hear that :( you may not want to hear this but it's classic signs of an affair, sorry.

Sounds like you've had a lucky escape. He sounds immature. Is he young? Forget him and move on.

Sounds like you've had a lucky escape. He sounds immature. Is he young? Forget him and move on.

Sorry to be harsh it it sounds like you treated him as a teenage son rather than a partner.

What exactly did he bring to the relationship?

He is a freeloading cocklodger and he is unfaithful

Move on, for God's sake

Don't lower yourself to contact him any further, and when he comes crawling back (he will) tell him to fuck right off

Sorry but I have to agree - he has another woman!
Sounds to me like you are better off without him.
Stop begging him.
Cut contact totally. No more texts, no more replying.
Just delete and move on and find someone who really deserves your love and who will love you without the need to cheat on someone who has been so good to him.

no affair as I know of gone back to his mothers!!but that's exactly what I thought as i have been there done that, yeah your right probably mothered him he's 29

Hes a cocklodger, manchild and probably a cheat.

Your will rid of this boy, cut contact, hes probably getting off on keeping you dangling.

O think it quite likely he's met someone else.
If not, then he's a game playing flake.

These "breaks" (Jeremy Kyle style) that you've had before, he has been boffing OW

That is what he is doing now

he expects you to welcome him back when he gets this one out of his system

I hope you won't

Crucial take-home message - DO NOT KEEP YOUR DOOR OPEN FOR HIM!! (Sorry to shout...) You wouldn't want to go back to looking after him while he kept one foot in the door, would you?

too anyfucker nice name by the way no I wont have him back to the way hes dumped me, we've never had a break before, i have been cheated on before but not with this one. I came on here cause I knew you lot would sort me out thank you in advance x

thank you no the mortgage is in my name ive been shit on in the past an I wasn't about to make that mistake twice just thought he was different but there all seem to be the same x

unless he's gay as there all men so maybe that might be it lol

if the mortgage is in both your names then get legal advice so you are not paying it all on your own. Same with anything else that's 'joint'. You want to be completely free of him and for him to have no involvement in your life, house or otherwise.
Don't respond to any messages nor make contact with him again.
Sounds like he wants you to be waiting for him to come back. Seems to be enjoying it tbh. I agree he's got someone else.
Get rid of him, move on, lucky escape.

Oh my God! What a looser!!! Forget him and move on - he is not worth wasting your breath on!! Don't regret anything - it's a lesson learned. Good luck x

Sounds like he's done you a huge favour, go out and celebrate your freedom .

Same happened to me, although at least he had the decency to tell me face to face! Had a 4 week break and then said he no longer wanted us to try again. Turns out he indeed had another woman. Anyway fast forward 18 months and guess who came crawling back when it all went tits up...yes him! I told him to kindly do one as I had moved on. They always come back. Take some time out, heal your wounds, talk about it to RL friends and in time you'll get over him, and realise he did you the biggest favour ever by leaving you, and making room in your life for someone who'd never dream of treating you this way.
Good Luck xx

I know it doesn't seem like it now, but from the outside it is as clear as day that you have had a lucky escape.

One day you will get down on your knees and thank all that is holy that you never had children with this person.

Sometimes you have to accept that you don't get answers.

Delete his number and work hard on moving on.

The man you describe here is no great loss to anyone.

He didn't know he had it so good. What did you see in him? Let him go. One of life's passengers. You don't need the hassle. If he ever comes crawling back tell him to follow his own advice and do one.