Hey I'd appreciate some perspective/advice. I'm 4 months pregnant and don't massively trust my own judgement right now.
For the first part of my pregnancy DP was perfect, the model partner, very attentive loving etc. It was a difficult T1 due to sickness and other problems & about 3 weeks ago things settled down.
The better I felt, the less pregnant I felt & DP became concerned that I wasn't bonding with the baby and said that my lack of baby enthusiasm was spoiling it for him, he didn't feel involved or know how to support me any more.
He became more and more withdrawn & distant & unaffectionate -I didn't notice too much/though it would pass. Then it came to a head last week when he started picking stupid fights, just looking for an excuse to argue and eventually blew up over something & said the baby was "the biggest mistake of his life", he hated me & it was over.
This was a day before we were supposed to be going away with my family so I went anyway and then went to my parents for a few days. I told him before I left that he had an hour to make amends & if he didn't I would take it he meant everything he said & he should be gone before I return.
While I was away he text me and said he didn't love me any more and hadn't for a while, that he didn't even like me as a person, pregnancy had made me lazy and boring & it was my fault for making him fall out of love with me.
I returned home today, he's still here. Still not sorry. He could have left so I don't understand why he's here. He said he waned to talk and said that he couldn't leave me because I'm having his baby. I said thanks but no thanks - I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't love me & think I can do a bit better in life than that.
It turns out that over the week I was away he got some very worrying news about his mother & was also sacked from his job for gross misconduct, he had another job lined up but now it looks as though he may not get it due to losing his reference & is also not getting paid now.
He's just sent me a message (separate rooms) saying he's moving out tomorrow & will leave everything because he has given up on everything.
Do I leave him to it? He's going to be the father of my child, should I try to talk to him? We're going to be parents so does that mean I shouldn't just let him go or does it mean I have to just let him go.
He's been horrible to me & now somehow he's the victim. I feel so confused. This baby was planned, we've been together 5 1/2 years. I think this is a pregnancy freak/lash out but its a really harsh one, has anyone been through similar?
Sorry that was so long.