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Normal or something a bit special?

30 replies

KOTK · 04/06/2013 16:41

Was having an idle natter with DH the other night about blowjobs (as you do). It turns out that he thinks getting a bj is something really rather special and outside the norm - something that the vast majority of women simply don't do. Whereas for me, they've always been a regular part of my sex life and I've never thought of them as being particularly kinky or extreme at all. Some people like them, some people don't, but they're not actually teetering on the edge of depravity are they?!

Of course everybody has different boundaries and preferences (and obviously no-one should be doing anything that they're not 100% comfortable with), but what's your take on it? Have I got a completely skewed perspective in thinking that they're, well, just a normal part of sex? Blush

OP posts:
hellsbellsmelons · 04/06/2013 16:45

I consider them a normal part of sex.
Very rarely have sex without oral.
Only met 1 man that doesn't like them though! That soon finished as that was just weird IMO!

TheOrchardKeeper · 04/06/2013 16:46

they're like a once a week thing for me and DP, as well him returning the favour (not that either of us begrudges it) Grin

Thought that was normal, if maybe a little above average!

cathpip · 04/06/2013 16:46

Normal part of sex here as well, I shall tell my dh that he is very privileged:)

BunnyLebowski · 04/06/2013 16:51

Was he confusing oral with anal?? Confused Grin

Completely normal. Although I know 2 women who point blank refuse to do it which I find extremely weird.

Fairypants · 04/06/2013 16:52

Normal part of healthy sex but seems more intimate in some ways so tends to be the first thing to go if we're having a difficult patch.

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KOTK · 04/06/2013 17:02

BunnyLebowski that's exactly what I thought! Grin But nope, he definitely means oral.

I'm torn between letting DH continue to think that I'm some kind of wanton sexual goddess and letting him in on the fact that actually I'm just normal to prove I'm right!!

OP posts:
rubiesandpearls · 04/06/2013 17:03

Completely normal and a regular part of our foreplay.

AnythingNotEverything · 04/06/2013 17:06

Somewhere between the two I think - not every time, but not only on special occasions either. Rarely a whole one, start to finish IYKNIM

LEMisdisappointed · 04/06/2013 17:13

Spit or swallow?

BunnyLebowski · 04/06/2013 17:15

You left out option 3 LEM - use as face cream Grin

LEMisdisappointed · 04/06/2013 17:22

Thats no good i find if you dont rinse it off it goes all crusty

KittyLilith · 04/06/2013 17:23

I think it's normal but DH is of the same opinion as OP'sand thinks I'm pretty awesome Grin.

Thisisaeuphemism · 04/06/2013 17:26

Aw, he's sweet - I'd go back and say, yeah no one else does it! Aren't you the luckiest fella etc etc

Keztrel · 04/06/2013 17:37

Always thought it was normal and standard! Nothing special anyway, but very fun nonetheless :)

MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour · 04/06/2013 17:39

Definitely normal and not anything special, lovely that he thinks of you as a sex goddess though Grin

MoodyDidIt · 04/06/2013 17:41

i always thought it was normal and standard as well

but when i got with dh he couldnt believe how many bjs he got from me as he said he very rarely got them from his exes. god knows why as he is really clean etc

i do absolutely love doing it though. and when its erm time of month, i regular give him a full one, swallow and everything

he loves it and it makes me feel like a sex goddess ;)

cherhorowitz · 04/06/2013 17:44

Normal here. Not every time but a good amount of the time.

Thisisaeuphemism · 04/06/2013 17:45

Foolishly I once asked dh if his previous girlfriends gave him bjs. He said yes. I said what? Every single one? He said yes.
Don't tell your dh that, op!

AnyFucker · 04/06/2013 18:00

If you like to do it, it's a normal and healthy part of a mutually respectful sex life

AnyFucker · 04/06/2013 18:07

With a but more fun involved than my last post might imply of course....Blush

HairyGrotter · 04/06/2013 18:15

Normal part if my relationship, DP is bowled over by my enjoyment and willingness as his ex's have all given them as a 'treat'.

I don't overly enjoy men going down on me, DP finds this a bit odd (and he's sad about it haha) but takes me as I am and my comfort is paramount to him.

Whatever floats your boat, but I know some men/females dislike oral.

AnyFucker · 04/06/2013 18:19

I don't really like receiving either, HG

OnTheNingNangNong · 04/06/2013 18:22

Normal here, although DH would prefer if I went 'to completion' not happening though!

EuroShaggleton · 04/06/2013 18:49

Normal.

Keztrel · 04/06/2013 18:55

Another one who dislikes 'receiving' here too, AF and HG. I just find a head between my legs weird and unsexy. And it feels all soft and slimy. Also hate the noise. Very occasionally I'm really in the mood for it. DH loves doing it so I sometimes let him even if it's not doing anything for me Hmm

Maybe he's rubbish at it??

Bit of a TMI post, sorry Grin