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Just had the strangest date

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Amberz · 02/06/2013 18:28

Met a guy online said he lived abit away from me, I was not keen to meetup
he persued the issue , to just meet for a coffee , I thought why not?.

Tell me if you think this is strange , he is seperated from wife as she had gone all spiritual and gone to live in a Teape, but HE lives in a Bothy, to do his writing of Prose , I ask myself what am I not getting here , he really was keen for me to go and see where he lived as i know the area well. Dont get me wrong I only live in a small place but it has bricks and mortar, did he really think I would find this invitation alluring ???????, please tell me I am right in saying NO .

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Hamwidge · 03/06/2013 00:12

Are you ok bbqsummer? You seem a little on edge.

bbqsummer · 03/06/2013 00:38

On edge? EDge? MEE?????

Yep, am fine thanx. Wink

People being nasty on the turn of a penny must be emotionally bankrupt.

MarcelineTheVampireQueen · 03/06/2013 00:58

Bbq, you randomly came on the thread to give out to someone about their use of full stops. I think if you get to that point in life, its time to step away from the computer and have a word with yourself...

Op, I know you are rusty but in this Internet age, you can't be too careful so please don't ever feel pressured to meet someone. It might be worth having a bit of a review of your dating safety detail such as letting someone know where you are etc.

bbqsummer · 03/06/2013 02:55

Thankyou for your wise words Marceline. Nice random post there. Hmm

ItsYonliMe · 03/06/2013 04:54

Aberz the poor guy hasn't done anything wrong as far as I can see. You met for a coffee and he suggests, that when you are on holiday, you go and visit his bothy.

How did the coffee go? Did he seem a nice person?

To be honest you're probably not suited to each other as it sounds as if you are plains apart.

PS Don't get so hung up on bricks and mortar - they mean jack shit.

ItsYonliMe · 03/06/2013 04:56

PPS I doubt you actually know what a bothy is OP Smile

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Amberz · 03/06/2013 06:09

ItsYonliMe, Yep I do know what a bothy is have slept in one actually!, was not just the Bothy .................................we were not suited really .... as you said we were plains apart thats it really but thanks for your thoughts very interesting some of them...............and sorry but bricks and mortar do mean alot to me ....................having spend the last 20 years raising a family alone and paying for my own bricks and mortar ....................each to there own though ............if that is what floats their boat so be it .

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Amberz · 03/06/2013 06:24

Catsand theirpizza - Hi I agree the thread is amusing............all I can say is you never know who your going to meet in life!

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Vivacia · 03/06/2013 06:35

(I'm glad bbq mentioned the full stops).

To the OP, I'm not really sure there's anything to say about all of this. You had a date with someone a bit different to you. The only thing of any note is your behaviour. If you're in to reading, I'd recommend "The gift of fear".

50shadesofmeh · 03/06/2013 06:37

A bit cheapo staying in a bothy , I didn't think they were made for people to take up permanent residence in, so he's effectively homeless then?

SirSugar · 03/06/2013 07:50

I've learnt all about Bothys this morning.

lottiegarbanzo · 03/06/2013 07:58

Well he sounds whimsical, open-minded, interested in finding out what's right for him, probably very articulate and not scared of being considered eccentric. Could be fascinating and delightful, could be a self-absorbed, control-freak grump.

Probably being naive about taking a date to a remote place, just thinking its interesting, probably inexperienced at dating. May need this to be explained.

All irrelevant if you don't want to meet.

Bothies are supposed to be available to anyone passing, not occupied but perhaps he's happy to share and no-one who would mind has noticed yet.

lottiegarbanzo · 03/06/2013 08:03

P.s. the last bothy I went into had rats. I wouldn't consider them ideal for cosy romantic evenings - especially as some wet, sweaty hiker might stumble in at any moment!

ItsYonliMe · 03/06/2013 08:03

There are bothies and then there are bothies....www.airbnb.com.au/rooms/297172

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Amberz · 03/06/2013 08:15

Vivicai well noticed

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Amberz · 03/06/2013 08:17

I am incredibly wary of men yes it does show this maybe brought it to light the view I do not ant anyone outside my comfort zone at this stage in my life been through too much .......................

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ExcuseTypos · 03/06/2013 08:20

There's a house for sale in my village, with it's own detached bothy.

The bothy is a thatched one bedroomed 'mini-cottage'.

I wouldn't be out off by just the bothy.

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Amberz · 03/06/2013 08:25

Vivcai had a look at the book will download it and read many thanks

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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 03/06/2013 08:28

bbqsummer, you come across as mean and nasty. Is that your intention?

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Amberz · 04/06/2013 06:55

There was more to it obviously than just the Bothy he asked me if I had a temper!, mmmmmmmmmm strange I thought then he went on to say he would BUY A FLAT nearby me and a Car just freaked me out he had just met me I mean talk about pressure , no not for me bothy or not.

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Amberz · 04/06/2013 07:16

Ha BBQ love the pic of the Bothy looks amazing, but it was more than the Bothy he just came across as desperate for me to like him and was talking marriage on the first date!!, I was freaked out to be honest .

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Amberz · 04/06/2013 07:23

I am fine thanks BBQ sorry you are being hassled for taking an interest in my post have a good day

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bbqsummer · 04/06/2013 20:25

Wow, amberz that kind of pressure (car, flat nearby, marriage!?? etc) all amounts to a red flag the size of a small country

Tbh so does the other stuff - separated from his tipi-loving wife and asking if you have a temper fgs??Shock.

Glad you can see that and have backed away! Smile

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