Sexual Fantasies, should you share them with your partner?

[BeetrootOldDeer]

Having a chat with a male mate last night and he reckons that we should all share out sexual fantasies with our partners. Infact men will usually fancy one of our mates and we should allow them to admit this. And this will bring out a wonderful side and excitement.

I said that I really don't want to know that he fantasies about shagging my best mate form behind. I would not mind if he had fantasies about Nicole Kidman but not my mates.

What do you reckon???

i am sure dh does fancy my mates..but i don;t want to know details.

Well, yes, quite.

Love the phrase 'sub-duvet'

I think discussing your fantasies can be a good thing, BUT not if you are focusing on the other person in them (if it isn't your regular RL partner). By all means suggest bringing in some of the 'action' from fantasies but I'd rather not talk about who DH would prefer to shag, given his pick of anyone.

I don't kow about anyone else, but for me fantasies have been about the content NOT the other person involved, IYSWIM. For example, I don't fantasise about specific people (celebrities or otherwise), in fact the 'stars' tend to be faceless & nameless. Is that a female thing ?

Do men concentrate more on who they are with in their fantasies ?

i do have a couple of 'fanicies' that pop up (so to speak) every now and then.

LOL at the plural of Guiness

yes that had me laughing Blu.

dp knows that, in theory, I quite fancy a couple of our friends...and probably would get quite enthusiastic about any lurid fantasy I span him...but soince I'm not up for the reciprocal favour, I will remain discretly silent.

yes, that is a similar situation to me blu

NDP, I've certainly heard as much - most women's fantasies are relatively faceless, the partner isn't specific, necessarily. Whereas most men's fantasies are about a specific other person.

I'm sure some women have specific fantasies, and some men don't, of course.

yes this is what actor mate was saying. he says men fantasize about real women. and here was me thinking dh was fantasising about claudia schiffer

Yes, well, men seem to have the misguided confidence to believe that any specific woman they fancy might actually be prepared to Do It with them!

Can't think why your friend is still single, beetroot!!
What a ridiculous suggestion! No way would I want to know if my husband was fantasising about one of my friends!
Mind you - he can be rest assured that I would never fantasise over any of his dodgy mates!!

When I introduce a mate to DP I always say "Well, would ya?" and he says yes or no... its our bit of fun, I can guess who he will and will not fancy (all of whom are nothing like me btw... ah well!)

But I think if he we're to turn round and say "I had a jolly good think about banging {{insert name}}" I may well be likely to remove his goolies.

I have a thing about anyone in a position of authority, so DP always knows who I would like too....

xavielli - dh and me play the "wouldya?" game too

would ya game is a bit different to expilicit details!

not sure if you should name names, but apart from that, yes tell all

makes it fun

i think the anmeing names is my biggest problem with this way. I really don't want to knwo that he fancies the pants of my best mate and what he woudllike to do to her....why would i want t know that? and why woudl it enhance my sex life.?

have only skim read this....im ambivalent about this matter....on one hand i know that dp fancies one of my friends.she is beautiful,absolutely your typical doll faced babe...so he has good taste right?

on th eother hand...i really dont like him sharing too many details.when we are all out together and i have a shandy i tell her though...cos im really mature?

unless you fancy her too beeety, there wouldnt be anything to gain, i agree

i only fancy nicloe kidman

ive asked dh if he fancies any of my mates and he says no (obviously!!),he cant stand two of my friends (and that is true!) and a couple of the others are alot older tahn us,so itd be like him fancying his mum!!!

i wouldnt tell him if i fancied any of his mates though!!and i would never tell him about my fantasies!!(theyre mine all mine!!!)

I think telling your partner specific people that you fancy is naff and disrespectful.

i think if you told your parner who you fancied they would always be abit funny around that person,especially if you were there!IYKWIM!!

I think if my dh were to share all his fantasies with me there'd be no time for any other sort of conversation.

I think it's a good idea to share a select few. You'll know yourself which ones might be, um, beneficial.