Internet Dating

[justme399]

Is it me or does many others find Internet dating soul destroying to the point where you feel suicidal and worthless? Am on anti depressants partly because of that and the doctor advised me to stop doing online dating as she said its not for the faint hearted or overly sensitive of which i fall into that category. That's exactly how I feel at the moment with it and I think I am going to have to stop doing it. I live in East Anglia and there is very few people in the dating pool in this area online and it seems you have to travel at least to London. I work full time and I don't have the time or money to travel that far afield to meet someone who I may or may not get on with.

To cut a long story short I have been online on various websites, Okcupid, Match, Dating Direct and POF and all the dates I have had there has always been some problem whether they be married, can't commit, no chemistry or just shallow. I have done online dating now for say over 6 years and still not found any relationship material. I am not prepared to wait another 6 years on these sites so how else do you meet normal people who want a fully committed relationship?

I am 32 and although very young all my friends are settled and I feel like a reject. I am good looking and successful but I just can't seem to meet anyone I like.

Justine

[susiedaisy]

Less-miss, that was my experience as well, I seemed to be contacted by either weirdos, sex pests who then got their account deleted or men much much older than myself, I gave up in the end!

[gayman31]

Why does it work for some people then and not others? I ask myself all the time what am I doing wrong and get nowhere.

[gayman31]

@Diaryofawimpymum Are we talking of POF by any chance? It is pretty crap that site. The most I get on there is 'Hi, how are you?' How boring is that.

[skyeskyeskye]

I am on Match and POF. I dont actively seek out dates at the moment but I try and answer messages as long as they dont start with Hi Sexy....

I met one guy after chatting for a week, he was ok but had no teeth and too much baggage. I communicated solidly for a week with another guy, sent him full length pics etc, then the night before our date he decided thaat I was too overweight for him

was recently chatting to another guy who asked for my mobile number then disappeared.

My friend did actually meet her boyfriend online, after 12 months they are now offical on facebook... but she said if she was single again, she wouldnt do online dating as it is soul destroying

[gayman31]

How long do you wait to meet someone in person from Internet dating? If they say ill have to get back to you or in a couple of weeks that basically means not really interested doesn't it.

Ive decided internet dating is not for me and although I have a couple of friends I met online I can't be bothered with all the shit that goes with it.

[Scarletohello]

The only od I do these days is NSA. It's surprising ( but depressing ) how many attractive, intelligent, friendly articulate guys there are out there .... But they only want sex!! ( and I avoid the married ones cos there are a lot of them out there). The first day I joined I got over 100 messages ( and I'm over 40!). I know it's not for everyone but it actually did my esteem a lot of good and I've met a lot of lovely guys and had a lot of fun ..!

[DiaryOfAWimpyMum]

Yes was POF. I'm on another one Badoo and talking to a guy but he is freaking me out

He keeps using my name. A bit too intense for me. Eg:

Him: So Diary how do feel about us meeting up?xxxxx

Me: Yes, maybe in July :)x

Him: So what is about July and not now Diary xxxxxx

Me: I'm a bit plumper than my pictures I may date when I lose my mitrazipine weight.

Him: Oh Diary but you look beautiful xxxxxx

Me: No, I'm over weight, so I'm probably just average

Him: Lol Diary okay okay average then, diary x

I think I need to forget this wedding and also he looks like his face is slightly lopsided and seems to be on the site 24/7, I left him trying to give me his phone number. thank god you just click a button and they dissapear!

[ALittleStranger]

Diary why on earth would you tell a stranger that you want to delay dating because you feel too fat?! Am I being unreasonable, in my view that's a massive overshare and I'd see it as a major red flag if someone said similar to me? And I do think there are safety issues in making yourself look insecure and vulnerable online, some people prey on that!

[Dahlen]

I've never used internet dating so am probably not qualified to answer this, but I know quite a few who have used it with varying degrees of success. From their experiences I would say that it's worth paying for the more selective ones, as it at least appears to weed out many of the married and time-wasting prospects.

[DiaryOfAWimpyMum]

It was a bizarre conversation tbh I'm on the site as 'friends' just now, so have no intention of meeting him, he seemed to ask question after question and I was just brutally honest with him like I say I have no intention of meeting him, I told him that too.

I guess my conversation with someone depends on who I'm talking to, I don't think I would come across as insecure or vulnerable but if I was droning on about my weight then yes....

Ive had a re-think and I'm staying off dating sites, for a while.