This is what my dad said to me at the weekend 
It's 7 months since my husband was violent to me (first and only time) and I posted about it a lot at the time www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1592616-Shocked-by-dhs-angry-violent-outburst-What-to-do?pg=8
I've always been able to talk to my dad and we have a lovely relationship.
H and I have struggled to move on from this and whilst he hasn't been violent or angry to me since I just feel differently. DH has moved out for a bit as I want some space to think about the relationship. My dad thinks leaving dh will be a terrible mistake as he is a "great guy". I said to my dad "but how can you think someone who put their hands round your daughters throat is a good guy?" and he said "well, this is just me love but If it were me I'd be wondering what I'd done to make the other person so angry". I told my dad I think no matter how angry I'd made someone it doesnt excuse that and he just said "well that is me love, that's just how I would feel".
I feel really hurt and upset by this. I am glad he forgave DH for this one off horrible thing as having the support of dad while we've tried to make it work has been important but I feel devastated that my dad thinks I should settle for this and thinks I'd be making a "terrible mistake" if I left.