Unforgivable?

[olivia12]

I apologise in advance for the long rant but I just feel like unburdening myself as I would never talk to anybody about this in RL.
Something happened today that has made me so angry at my husband and I feel has tipped the scale towards a separation because we have been so unhappy for so long, but still we keep trying for the sake of our daughter.
BUT what has happened today, I feel personally, really has taken things too far and I find it really hard to forgive him and I am usually a very forgiving person. He is not even sorry.
We were at a shopping centre after lunch in a restaurant and we were going past some shops. I said I wanted to go in a Warehouse shop and he said no, let's go. At this I said ok, but after a couple of shops he saw a suits shop and said I am going in. As he said that, I said while you are in there I am going to Warehouse. He said no to that, but I contested and said, yes I am going. He kept going in the shop, he went in with my daughter and I went to Warehouse. I stayed literally 2 minutes and returning to the suit shop, there was no sign of him anywhere.
I looked in the shop, everywhere, there were nowhere to be found, I tried calling him, no reply, I called 20 times, all the way to the platform station, then on the train, I had tears in my eyes, my daughter's coat in my hands and I was dumbfounded by this behaviour. I got home 15 minutes after and they were on the sofa, got home just a few minutes before me. He dared to say he didn't hear his phone, he didn't know where I was, but then he said like this I won't leave again next time. So he practically admitted he did it on purpose to teach me a lesson. I feel deeply ashamed in front of my daughter that he could do this, she is five year old and still innocent but soon will find out how manipulative he is.

How can I have any hope of a reasonable life with such a person? He often calls me names, also the one starting with a c, he says I am stupid and careless, lazy and he is often rude and has no respect for my feelings. I don't know how to fix this, when he is lovely I do love him, when he is horrible I hate him. I stayed this long, because I am scared to take that step and doing it on my own and I don't want to leave my daughter every weekend with him, he is a lovely father most of the time, but he can sometimes be a right idiot, as you can see from today's action.
Thanks for reading.

[olivia12]

Thank you everyone for your kind words and advice, I feel a little stronger now and I must check out Woman's aid, I never knew about them and then I must follow through with a decision.
I don't have any family around to help me, but I have some good friends that would be very understanding. To clarify he has never called me names in front of my daughter, but he has many times said are you PMT in front of her, which drives me mad as you can imagine.
I am so sorry Sgt to hear about your experiences, I send you lots of hugs to get through it ok. And thanks to Pendipity for bucking the trend, it is also interesting to hear about the ones that make it. I have always wanted to be the one that makes it, but it looks like I am fighting a losing battle.

Thank you again, you have really given me strength.

[ClippedPhoenix]

Maybe you've been fighting the wrong battle OP. Isnt it time to get away from this horrible man?

[zippey]

That was horrible OP, your husband sounds controlling and dismissive of you, and I feel sorry for you and your daughter. I hope you have the strength to do whats best for you and your daughter.

[supafish]

Please leave this man , that's a horrendous thing to do ..... You and your dd deserve better x