Not sure what to make of this. Could I have some opinions please?

[MrsMorello]

I've been with DP for six months so fairly early days. Everything is good so far, we're taking things slowly and I enjoy his company.

However, I don't know whether this is me over reacting or not, but I'm starting to feel like he is publicly putting me down...on Facebook of all places. For example, I love baking and last week I made and decorated a cake for my nephew's birthday. I uploaded a photo to show my friends, only to find DP had written this response underneath: 'Good to see I've got a woman who knows her way around the kitchen!'

Other examples: I wrote a status which said I was looking forward to going to a bar with some friends. DP adds this comment underneath, 'Yeah good luck with that one you lightweight! You'll be passed out after one drink.'

He's made less than flattering comments about my driving and has also made reference to me being his 'chauffeur' after I picked him up one night in my [quote] 'banger of a car.'

I have two terriers and there are a couple of photos of them on my FB page. DP has commented and said, 'you'll never catch me taking those rats for a walk with their poncey pink collars! I'd never live it down!'

One of my male friends who I've known for 20 years and has recently emigrated wrote a message on my FB wall to say hi, how are you? That sort of thing. DP immediately picks up on this and writes underneath: "This is a bit too friendly for my liking!"

Is it me being over sensitive or is this quite a rude thing to do? I sort of feel as though by adding these comments on my FB page it's like he's marking his territory and also letting people know that he wears the trousers in the relationship, almost like he's showing off?

Facebook aside, when it's just me and him together he is quite sweet but does take the piss out of me a lot. To start with I used to give him some banter back but it's wearing a bit thin now especially as I've noticed his 'jokes' are actually quite personal. I've spoken to him about it and he has said he's just 'messing around' but he's still doing it.

Feeling a bit confused here, as though something's not sitting right with me but I'm worried I'm over reacting. This guy is in his late twenties by the way, although from what I've written he sounds like a child! Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Thanks.

He sounds like an unpleasant man I agree you dodged a bullet there. I'd text back saying you've explained the reasons, there's no-one else and ask him not to contact you again. Then just delete/don't reply and delete him from your facebook account too.
Best of luck OP you can and will do much better, when you're ready to date again.

Oh yes, tell him to join us on this thread! We would love to chat to him. :)

Well done for dumping him. You don't have to reply anything, or you could just tell him that yes, you really are dumping him for being an arse and luckily it's not your problem whether he believes you or not.

There are plenty of nice men out there who don't need to put their partner down to boost their fragile ego. :)

There's an idea Kniddy
Point him to this thread.
(sharpens claws)

What Calamity said.

Brava, MrsMorello! He will have his tantrum, but on his own time, not yours. It really really does not matter what he thinks, or even more mind boggling, what his friends think. He really can not face being accountable for his behavior. As previously said, his problem, not yours.

So any man that even looks at you, let alone acknowledges your existence, is trying it on? You are so well rid of this emotionally abusive jerk.

Well done for dumping him OP.

He's out of your life now - you owe him NOTHING. Just block his number if you can and ignore all further messages. I'm certain they will get more abusive pretty quickly so I would be telling him that if he doesn't back off, you will contact the police.

Fantastic news that you're done with him! Don't give the satisfaction of any more communication - he's just an insecure controlling jerk!

I call these men "The Wife Haters". They're a funny breed who claim to love women but seemingly not actually THE woman in their lives. Things they would be outraged about on behalf of other women do not apply to YOU. If you pull them up on it they will be confused or if you're quite far in to the relationship may tell you they are like that with YOU because they know what you are really like, the subtext being you're such a piece of shit that you don't deserve decent treatment. Obviously you weren't his wife but as His Woman the same rules apply.

Sometimes these attitudes spill over to sisters but never Mums or friends ie Decent Women.

If anyone clever could explain the psychology behind this I would be so grateful. My ex was like this and I have never really understood why. Why do these men hate or act like they hate the woman they are involved with or married to?

Brava!

BRAVA!

Well bloody done that woman!

I can't believe that he is now insinuating that you are a CHEAT/SLAG on top of what he's already done (which is enough to get himself dumped)

What a monumental TWAT.

His mates don't agree with him. he hasn't even told them he's been dumped! It's a Twactic.... Mine used to tell me all kinds of shit, under the guise of EVERYONE thinks you are.....

Ignore, delete, delete and if he doesn't FTFO THIS WEEK, call 101 and get THEM to tell him to FTFO.

Calamity I love your suggestion! I very nearly text that but have decided to ignore him. Have blocked him on FB too.

In a way I'm glad he has implied I'm a cheat/slag because that is just further proof that he has a very low opinion of me and has confirmed I have totally done the right thing.

Machli I too would like to know why these men act the way they do. There were times when XP treated me with utter contempt - always around his friends, incidentally. He once invited a friend and I to meet him and his mates for a drink. When I walked into the bar I went over to XP, said hello and went to give him a peck on the cheek and he brushed me away like a pesky fly. It was humiliating. Yet in private he would always be all over me like a cheap suit. Arsehole.

Thanks everyone for taking the time to help me through this situation.

good luck mrsmorello you have a bright future ahead of you, and away from nob-ends like this.

my exh used to do the 'everyone thinks ' too

Well done OP. I'm sure none of us could have predicted that reaction ;)

If he insists there must be another reason tell him yes, he was shite in the sack.

Machli - terrifyingly accurate. My first BF was like that (thankfully long gone)!

Good decision op, do write what Calamity said

tall bingo, that'll shut him up.

That really made me laugh tall! Brilliant.

Well done MrsMorello. Really, you deserve a pat on the back. There are so many other decent guys around, who would want to be with him. And he has shown his true colours.

He sounds like an utter wanker dreadfully insecure.

I agree with everyone else - ignore, ignore, ignore.

Be prepared for his change of heart, where he may turn up with flowers and insights that you don't know your own mind, and he is the best thing that ever happened to you, you are destined to be together blah, blah, boak.

If he insists there must be another reason tell him yes, he was shite in the sack Very funny, tallwiv.

Insisting you have another man , demanding to know more - all hallmarks of a jealous tosser.

Good for you OP on getting rid. I agree about ignore, ignore, ignore. Change your mobile number if you need to.

Well done MrsMorello!

His ego obviously can't take the idea that you would rather be single than with him. I doubt it will spur him on to change his ways though, too many women accept this kind of shite as part of a relationship. I'm glad you're not one of them!

MrsMorello Very happy for you!